In Real Life

Love, Lies & Identity in the Digital Age

By: Nev Schulman

Narrated by: Nev Schulman

Length: 6 hrs and 25 mins

Publisher's summary

From the host of MTV's #1 show Catfish comes the definitive guide for millenials about how to connect with people authentically in today's increasingly digital world.

Nev Schulman is the host of the wildly popular TV series Catfish which investigates online relationships to determine whether they are based on truth or fiction (spoiler: it's almost always fiction).

Nev has become the Dr. Drew of online relationships for millenials. His clout in this area springs from his own experience with a deceptive online romance, about which he made a critically acclaimed 2010 documentary (also called Catfish). In that film Nev coined the term "catfish" to refer to someone who creates a false online persona to reel someone into a romantic relationship. The meme spread rapidly.

Now Nev takes his investigation to the page, providing readers with an essential roadmap to better connect their digital personas with their true selves. Woven throughout with Nev's personal stories, this book explores relationships in the era of social media. Specifically the book tackles:

• what motivates catfish
• why people fall for catfish
• how one can avoid being deceived
• online accountability
• Nev's rules for dating
• how to connect authentically with people over the internet
• how to turn an online relationship into a real life relationship, and much, much more.

Nev delves deeply into the complexities of dating in a digital age, and continues the cultural dialogue his show has begun about how we interact with each other through social media versus in person -- specifically in relation to millennials, who have never known a world without Facebook.

Here Nev explores the pressing issue of connectivity versus genuine connection which is plaguing our relationships with each other, and he provides the advice that his fans have been desperately seeking.

PLEASE NOTE: When you purchase this title, the accompanying reference material will be available in your My Library section along with the audio.

©2014 Nev Schulman (P)2014 Hachette

Critic reviews

"Nev is a great philosopher of the internet and thereby a critical voice for our generation. Whether or not you're a Catfish fan, In Real Life is a must-read and shows us the opportunities and pitfalls that are part of the digital era. Nev makes it plain and simple: the power of the keyboard is now mightier than the sword." (Matthew Segal, founder of OurTime.org)

"Finally someone has written a smart and funny guide that helps young people navigate social media without letting it take over their lives." (Maude Apatow, actress and Twitter personality)

" In Real Life is so much more than a book about online dating. It's about self-acceptance and being true to yourself in a world where you're influenced by so many people over the internet." (Jonathan Bennett, host of MTV's Copycat)

Great Life Story!!

I absolutely Loved this Book! It was filled with many life messages and much more!

A quick and fun must read for any Catfish fan!

A quick and fun read for any Catfish fan! if you love Nev you will love him even more after reading this book.

Great book Nev!

A little repetitive but great advice on new topics. Love catfish, book, movie, and show!

Great advice

I love how he wants this world to have less technology and more real life things. Very well told story

Not what I was thinking

Would you recommend this book to a friend? Why or why not?

I'm going to say no. I don't really have any friends that are trying online dating.

Which scene was your favorite?

I liked the stories from the show.

Any additional comments?

I got this book thinking it wasn't going to be a dating help book. I was thinking maybe moe along the lines of things that happened during the filming of his show or real life things that have happened.

Not as interesting as I thought.

Struggled to get through this but thankfully I finally finished it. He repeated a lot of what he said in the book. Not sure if I would listen to this again.

Entertaining but a bit heavy handed

Sometimes authors shouldn't narrate but Nev Schulman does a great job. I've always found the whole "catfishing" phenomenon strange and sort of fascinating and he has great insight into this subject. The only thing that got tiresome was the long winded "advice" about living IRL. I agree with everything he says but it got heavy handed. Nevertheless it made for an entertaining afternoon listen. Good pick for anyone interested in the sociology of online dating and relationships.

Nev, wow

Proud to say that I actually bought this audiobook with money, not credits lol. As a loyal fan to the show, it was the right thing to do.

First of all, Nev narrated quite nicely with his animated, youthful voice. This made it easy to finish within two days in between chores.

I am impressed with how open and authentic Nev is when he gives us some background and history of his mischievous behavior, which is frequently shown in the Catfish series. I sincerely admire his will to stay positive, improve, and be a better person everyday.

The most important point I took from Nev's book is that having real experiences with people who are physically present is what makes memories true and meaningful. Peace.

Repetitive

He just says the same stuff over and over. he also comes across highly arrogant and I do t believe half of what he said about him changing and being a better person. I don't recommend this