You Just Don't Understand

  • by Deborah Tannen
  • Narrated by Deborah Tannen
  • 1 hrs and 25 mins
  • Abridged Audiobook

Publisher's Summary

As sociolinguistics expert Dr. Tannen reveals, no one is to blame for the familiar feeling among men and women that members of the opposite sex just don't understand them. The problem dates back to childhood, when children learn to use language in distinctly different ways; years later, their adult efforts to talk to each other often place them at cross purposes - even when both mean well and are sincerely trying to communicate. Now in this groundbreaking audio program, Dr. Tannen illustrates how the best intentions can go easily astray between spouses, family members, co-workers and friends and gives valuable insight to help you communicate better than ever before. This best seller has revolutionized the way men and women talk and listen to each other - at home, at work, and wherever the communications gap between the sexes can lead to troublesome misunderstandings.


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men and women are different -- DUH!

All I got from this "book" is that men and women are different. Duh! For those under 35 or 40 this might be a revelation, but not for those of us above. I gave this "book" a 1 because it was not possible to give it a 0. In nearly fifty years on this earth I have found that the example people used are more the exception than the rule. people, both men and women, fall everywhere within the spectrum including the stereotypical man and stereotypical woman. While the "average man" and "average woman" groups might not be coincidental, they are both further from there stereotype extremes than one might infer from listening to this "book". Do yourself two favors: remember that men and women are different; and give your 8 dollars and 90 minutes to your favorite charity.

As a small defense of this book, I've yet to find an abridged version of anything worth the money spent. Though I doubt it, it is possible that an unabridged version of this book might be worth a look.
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- David Justice


I was assigned this book in a class a few semesters ago, and couldn't understand why. That was untill I read it. It is insightful, and gives explainations, to terrible relationships I have had in the past. Now when I get frustrated with someone I think back to this book, and try to understand whether we disagree or are just misunderstanding each others.
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- Benjamin Drawbaugh

Book Details

  • Release Date: 04-25-2000
  • Publisher: Simon & Schuster Audio