Why You're Not Married... Yet

  • by Tracy McMillan
  • Narrated by Tracy McMillan
  • 6 hrs and 10 mins
  • Unabridged Audiobook

Publisher's Summary

If you're looking to get married and you're not, there's most likely a very good reason: you. Not that you're a bad person - you're certainly not! It's just that you haven't yet become the woman you need to be in order to have the partnership you want. So how can you grow into someone who is ready to say "I do" and to attract the same in a mate?
You start with this book.
Based on her wildly popular Huffington Post article - one of the site's most-viewed of all time - Why You're Not Married . . . Yet dishes out straightforward, no-holds-barred practical and proven advice for women hoping to head down the aisle or just have a great relationship. With sisterly insight, razor-sharp wit, and refreshing candor, McMillan points out the things that might be in your blind spot: unhelpful attitudes, behaviors, and beliefs so easy to identify in others, but much more difficult to see in yourself. Then she shows you how to adjust them to get the relationship you deserve. Like a no-nonsense but loving best friend, McMillan meets you right where you are to help you get where you're going - with clarity and honesty. And she'll make you laugh out loud along the way.
More than just a relationship manual, Why You're Not Married . . . Yet will help you diagnose what's preventing you from getting what you want. Do any of these chapter headings sound familiar?

You're a Bitch: How defensiveness and anger can hide behind a tough, take-charge exterior, and why being nice is never a sign of weakness.
You're a Liar: How to stop lying to men - and get honest with yourself - about the kind of relationship you really want. It's the only way.
You're Shallow: Being a woman who insists on a tall guy is no different from being a man who demands big boobs. Learn why you should let go of trying to get what you think you should have and focus on getting what you need.
You're Selfish: The big secret about marriage: It's about giving something, not getting it. The other big secret: You will have to go first.
Why You're Not Married . . . Yet isn't so much about getting a husband as it is about shifting your perspective on being a wife. Here's a funny, insightful guide to becoming a more loving woman and creating a more loving marriage - even if you're already partnered. It's a book that will change your life and the way you think about relationships, and it may very well lead you down the aisle.


What the Critics Say

"Why You're Not Married . . . Yet is funny, smart, and so, so true. Equal parts BFF, boot-camp instructor, and relationship guru, Tracy McMillan will change the way you think about yourself and your relationships. This book is for every woman out there who wants to have a great marriage" (Ricki Lake)
"Tracy McMillan is a hero and visionary. Through her book I realized about myself things people I pay a lot of money have been trying to tell me for years: that I'm a bitch, a slut, a mess, and that I hate myself. She gives solutions on how to heal, grow, and get what you want in life in a funny, inspiring, personal and very rare way. This book is an empowering way to take control of your life and become the person you want to be. So basically, she shows you how to be the opposite of me." (Actress and comedian Whitney Cummings)
"As someone who has been married for twelve years, I love to give advice to my single girlfriends. Now, thanks to having read this book, I'm actually qualified to give it." (Heather McDonald, regular on Chelsea Lately and best-selling author of You'll Never Blue Ball in This Town Again)


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Customer Reviews

Most Helpful

Best self-help I have ever read!!

Would you recommend this audiobook to a friend? If so, why?

I have recommended this book to everyone! I have not read anything so well put together, so clear, so well-structured and so HELPFUL!

Ever have 10 people tell you the same thing, and then finally one of them says it in just the right way that the light goes off in your head? Tracy did that for me! It was as if all of the things I was trying to understand finally made sense.

I am in my late 20's, a few failed relationships behind me, really wanting to take responsibility for my part of their failure. Tracy's book was amazing. I think I fall into nearly every category she lists. I am now more clear about what I need to work on about myself and my goals for a future relationship. The best part is, she has made all of the same mistakes, so you don't feel like she is being rude or judgmental, just trying to pass off some amazing wisdom. And it is amazing!

What other book might you compare Why You're Not Married... Yet to and why?

Power of Now and New Earth had the spiritual side that she is talking about but not necessarily about relationships.

Which scene was your favorite?

The whole book. I have listened to it numerous times!

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- K

A hard to listen to because it tells you what you

This book tells you what you do not want to hear and gives practical and helpful advice about working on yourself.

I have read a lot of dating books since becoming single again. The flirting tips are all good and by the way girls, it is not the makeup that drives the men wild, it is the bombshell walk, shoulders back, stand up straight walk with confidence and move your hips side to side when you walk.

I think this is an excellent book. You don't have to tell anyone you read it but I do think the chapters about drama and things that we all do and do not mean to and then we are crying again because we sabotaged a great relationship.

This is the book for you, grab a box of tissues and listen and open to your heart to it and I think you will see a difference.
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- Lily LaRose "Lily"

Book Details

  • Release Date: 05-29-2012
  • Publisher: Random House Audio