• Who's Pulling Your Strings?

  • How to Break the Cycle of Manipulation and Regain Control of Your Life
  • By: Harriet Braiker
  • Narrated by: Kate Reading
  • Length: 4 hrs and 33 mins
  • Unabridged Audiobook
  • Release date: 02-27-06
  • Language: English
  • Publisher: McGraw-Hill Education
  • 4.5 out of 5 stars 4.5 (383 ratings)

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Publisher's Summary

Millions of people, both men and women, can become involved in relationships with manipulators, people who control through emotional manipulation, insults, and mind games. These "toxic" relationships erode self-esteem and make life miserable for the victim. Whether the manipulator is a relative, a spouse or romantic partner, a boss, coworker, or subordinate, or even a trusted friend or advisor, Dr. Harriet B. Braiker, best-selling author of The Disease to Please, shows you how to break this damaging cycle for good. Who's Pulling Your Strings? will help you end a current destructive relationship, understand how it occurred, and prevent you from ever getting involved in a manipulative relationship again. Using revealing self-assessment quizzes, action plans, and how-to exercises, Dr. Braiker empowers you to:


Recognize the signs of a manipulative relationship
Spot manipulators and their typical ways of operating
Assess your own vulnerability to manipulation
Identify the 7 main "Head Games" manipulators play
Utilize effective resistance tactics against manipulator's efforts
Transform yourself from a "soft" to a "hardened" target
Extricate yourself from manipulative relationships that do not change
Protect yourself from falling prey to manipulators' control in the future
Stop others from pulling your strings once and for all With insight, compassionate advice, and self-affirming strategies, Dr. Braiker helps you end any manipulative relationship and regain control of your life, starting right now.
©2004 Harriet M. Braiker, Ph.D. (P)2004 AMI
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5 out of 5 stars
By Marie A on 05-23-13

I highly recommend this book.

What did you love best about Who's Pulling Your Strings??

I have been married for almost 25 years and for almost all that time I have been controlled and abused by my husband and now … my two sons ( one adult and one almost adult).
I have been depressed, suicidal, convinced that I am a biggest looser-you name it …
I was listening to many books about detachment and had huge doubts that this approach works.Today for the first time I was able to “partially detach” from my husband’s abuse and belittling. It felt so good........
I highly recommend this book. Just keep listening - it will help .

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5 out of 5 stars
By Anonymous on 10-22-16

Excellent Review of the Psychology of Manipulation

This book presents the mindset and personality characteristics of manipulators - how they think and feel. From their personalities come their manipulation . Victims too have corresponding personality traits that make them vulnerable. Without boundaries, victims base their self esteem on the approval of others. The lamb is sought out by the wolf. Dr. Braiker presents the techniques that put an end to manipulation and she applies them to case histories to make them clear.

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By Marie Marie on 06-05-18

Good book

This book has been very helpful in understanding personality traits, motives and mind set of manipulators. A manipulator view of the world is that other people exist in their life to serve their purpose or met their needs. Manipulators have a huge sense of entitlement – they feel that they deserve to have their needs met or purposes served someone else’s expense. The thing that stands out to me most is they want and need to feel in control – they have a strong need to be right. They are black and white thinkers there are no grey areas to them.
This book has helped me understand that I have traits that make me a mark. Finally, the tips on dealing with manipulators give me a sense of control. Great book.

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5 out of 5 stars
By mr on 03-26-18

Very on point

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Very well put together. I find the stories in the beginning a bit boring but the content is very good and really nails the issue. She also gives really good strategies. An absolute must for anyone experiencing these issues. Have listened twice sometimes three times in places, very eye opening and useful knowledge!

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