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Tara Brach's other book--Radical Acceptance--had a very positive impact on me, so I dove for her second title. Although I found a portion of the material between True Refuge and Radical Acceptance to be duplicate (not necessarily a bad thing), reading TR was time well-spent. Like RA, TR is chock-full of examples with clients and students of Brach's, which gives the book a grounded feel. My biggest criticism of TR is Brach's repeatedly going to body parts as focal points for pain--I know that's a big part of her teachings and I respect that, but it doesn't spoil my enjoying and learning from the mindsets that she teaches. Below is a hodgepodge of lessons and quotes I took away from this title. Finally: Cassandra Campbell needs to accompany me to work and dictate my email to me every day. A terrific, calming narration well-suited for Brach's writing. Excellent audiobook.
- The three keys to True Refuge: truth, love, awareness.
- Brach's illustration of this application regarding her own terminal illness and her inability to go to the ocean anymore.
- "Perfection is not a prerequisite for anything but pain." --Donna Fall
- Good doubt searches for truth. Bad doubt arises from fear and anxiety.
- The "hub of consciousness" has spokes and a wheel which we travel out on. We must always return to the hub.
- Between stimulus and response is a space where we can take action.
- "Nothing influences our environment and a child's life more than the unlived life of a parent." --Carl Jung
- Compulsive thinking: Houdini can't escape from the unlocked lock. Compulsive thinking is fear-based and does no good in the long run. Pursuit of a conscious goal or ideal is different (and good).
- What we resist, persists.
- Grocers and thinkers: the only two people who weigh everything.
- Understand the difference between "what's real" and "what's true"
- Reality is always more kind than the stories that we tell about it.
- "If I don't know you, it's easy to hate you--but if I look into your eyes, I can't."
- "Ignorance is the source of all suffering." --Buddha
- Every thought is examined, or identified with. Choose wisely.
- The feeling of love--just 20 seconds, be it a hug from a spouse or a thought of a loved friend, pet, Jesus, etc.--has biological proof of positive effects to the brain.
- Thoughts that wire together, fire together. Condition yourself to be positive.
- The moment you see the importance of loving yourself you will see the importance of not making others suffer.
- "Avoid striking yourself with the second arrow." The first arrow--your reactions to stress--will perhaps never change or go away. But you can control your reactions to those reactions.
- Those who are free of resent surely find peace.
- Feed the right wolf: the reacting wolf or the loving wolf. You choose.
- Let the killer of your child drown in a river. Will you save them?
- "Wise speech is what is true and helpful." -Buddha
- Wisdom tells me I am nothing. Love tells me I am everything. Life is somewhere in the middle.
- Why doesn't the monk know what happens when he dies? Because he's not dead yet.
After finishing this title, I was standing in Barton Springs (a popular Austin swimming location) meditating and watching the lap swimmers in the morning. It was a busy morning--lots of swimmers--but still: 95%+ of the surface area is still calm, unoccupied water. I thought about how consciousness is similar: even though our mind may be racing with thoughts, those thoughts are still dwarfed by the space of consciousness itself. I credit reading TR for that moment of enlightenment.
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Tara Brach, who has achieved notoriety for her gentle approach to living, primarily through a psychological/Buddhist approach, provides some guidelines for moving through life, using what she refers to as "R.A.I.N." By this, she shows us how to meet challenging situations.
First Recognize the reality of what is occurring.
Then Accept that is it what it is.
Investigate what it means, and then the huge move that brings it all together, is:
"rest in Natural awareness." (in other words, do not be so quick to react, but move to a state of awareness in which we have a different relationship to what is happening).
Tara Brach also wrote "Radical Acceptance," in which she also suggests that we are so quick to run from, or distance ourselves from situations that feel unpleasant, that we may do better in the long run finding a way to move into them, with curiosity, patience and willingness to be present to what is happening.
As happens sometimes, they have chosen someone else to read this book. Although Cassandra Campbell has done an excellent job, Tara Brach has a beautifully soft voice, and I would so have preferred hearing her narrate it herself. However, this book is certainly worth listening to.
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