• The Wise Lesbian Guide to Getting Free from Crazy-Making Relationships and Getting on with Your Life

  • The Wise Lesbian Guide Series
  • By: Amber Ault Ph.D. MSW
  • Narrated by: Amber Ault
  • Length: 5 hrs
  • Unabridged
  • Release date: 01-10-14
  • Language: English
  • Publisher: Lemonade Stand Productions, a Division of Close the Gaps LLC
  • 3.1 (9 ratings)

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Publisher's Summary

Is your relationship “always about her?” Does it seem condemned to an endless break-up/make up cycle? Do your friends think your girlfriend is bad news? If you are stuck in a confusing, exhausting, crazy-making relationship and looking for a way to make sense of your girlfriend's self-centered, erratic, or volatile behavior, you need The Wise Lesbian Guide to Getting Free from Crazy-Making Relationships and Getting on with Your Life. In one small volume, Amber Ault, Ph.D., MSW spells out how three “personality disorders” (Narcissistic, Anti-social, Borderline) account for much of the toxic “come here/go away” “I love you/I hate you” and “it's all about me” drama that keeps good women in relationships that are great every once in a while but wretchedly crazy-making most of the time.
While other books explore the rise of narcissism, surviving the abuse of psychopaths, and dealing with people who have borderline personality disorder in general, this book takes a lesbian-specific look at the devastation that these personality disorders can cause in relationships and the special challenges facing women in same-sex partnerships with personality-disordered women.
In The Wise Lesbian Guide to Getting Free from Crazy-Making Relationships and Getting on with Your Life, Dr. Ault, a clinical sociologist and psychotherapist, draws from clinical literature and experience, expertise in LGBT culture, and a series of interviews with lesbian and queer women who experienced relationships with toxic partners to help you determine if the trouble you are experiencing in your relationship is rooted in a partner's personality disorder. She reviews common toxic relationship dynamics, the costs of staying with personality disordered partners, common personality disorder patterns, and why you might have been vulnerable to getting involved with a personality disordered woman. Perhaps most importantly, she provides specific skills you need to use if you are preparing to exit a toxic relationship, and detailed strategies for recovery, once you are free.
Every person deserves to be in a happy, joyful, supportive relationship. As we move into an era in which same-sex partners have access to legal marriage, it is perhaps more crucial than ever that we clarify our expectations for same-sex relationships and become skilled at choosing partners with the capacity to fully participate in mutually respectful, reciprocally supportive, life-enhancing relationships. You deserve to be in a relationship that promotes your happiness, health, and peacefulness. If your current relationship undermines your ease, well-being, and productivity, this book can help you get clearer about what is not working and how to take action so that you can open yourself to the possibility of having the relationship satisfaction you deserve.
©2014 Amber Ault (P)2014 Amber Ault
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By E. Whitehead on 12-08-16

required read for all later in life lesbians!

totally adaptable to most any relationship. i was able to see the points that have affected every single relationship in my life from friends to family to husband to girlfriend. this author is brilliant at applying the topics to any perspective.

the second half is dedicated to you. the reader. i froze in my seat as i heard the words i needed to hear. its time to put myself first. 💙

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By Janna C. on 04-29-16

Recording needs work....

What did you like best about The Wise Lesbian Guide to Getting Free from Crazy-Making Relationships and Getting on with Your Life? What did you like least?

The information is valuable but there are parts where there is a double voice recording

How would you have changed the story to make it more enjoyable?

This was more of an information guide and lecture; so there is no story to change.

Did the narration match the pace of the story?

The narrative had parts that had a dual voice recording. This caused an unwanted distraction.

Did The Wise Lesbian Guide to Getting Free from Crazy-Making Relationships and Getting on with Your Life inspire you to do anything?

Yes, I was inspired to research the terms "crazy-making relationships."

Any additional comments?

I would enjoy hearing more from this author and actual lesbians discussing the topic in an ongoing podcast format.

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