Is your relationship “always about her?” Does it seem condemned to an endless break-up/make up cycle? Do your friends think your girlfriend is bad news? If you are stuck in a confusing, exhausting, crazy-making relationship and looking for a way to make sense of your girlfriend's self-centered, erratic, or volatile behavior, you need The Wise Lesbian Guide to Getting Free from Crazy-Making Relationships and Getting on with Your Life. In one small volume, Amber Ault, Ph.D., MSW spells out how three “personality disorders” (Narcissistic, Anti-social, Borderline) account for much of the toxic “come here/go away” “I love you/I hate you” and “it's all about me” drama that keeps good women in relationships that are great every once in a while but wretchedly crazy-making most of the time.
While other books explore the rise of narcissism, surviving the abuse of psychopaths, and dealing with people who have borderline personality disorder in general, this book takes a lesbian-specific look at the devastation that these personality disorders can cause in relationships and the special challenges facing women in same-sex partnerships with personality-disordered women.
In The Wise Lesbian Guide to Getting Free from Crazy-Making Relationships and Getting on with Your Life, Dr. Ault, a clinical sociologist and psychotherapist, draws from clinical literature and experience, expertise in LGBT culture, and a series of interviews with lesbian and queer women who experienced relationships with toxic partners to help you determine if the trouble you are experiencing in your relationship is rooted in a partner's personality disorder. She reviews common toxic relationship dynamics, the costs of staying with personality disordered partners, common personality disorder patterns, and why you might have been vulnerable to getting involved with a personality disordered woman. Perhaps most importantly, she provides specific skills you need to use if you are preparing to exit a toxic relationship, and detailed strategies for recovery, once you are free.
Every person deserves to be in a happy, joyful, supportive relationship. As we move into an era in which same-sex partners have access to legal marriage, it is perhaps more crucial than ever that we clarify our expectations for same-sex relationships and become skilled at choosing partners with the capacity to fully participate in mutually respectful, reciprocally supportive, life-enhancing relationships. You deserve to be in a relationship that promotes your happiness, health, and peacefulness. If your current relationship undermines your ease, well-being, and productivity, this book can help you get clearer about what is not working and how to take action so that you can open yourself to the possibility of having the relationship satisfaction you deserve.
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Recording needs work....
The information is valuable but there are parts where there is a double voice recording
This was more of an information guide and lecture; so there is no story to change.
The narrative had parts that had a dual voice recording. This caused an unwanted distraction.
Yes, I was inspired to research the terms "crazy-making relationships."
I would enjoy hearing more from this author and actual lesbians discussing the topic in an ongoing podcast format.
- Lady Panther
The Quality of Recording Needs to be Fixed
The book and its messages are good. For anyone dealing with a bad relationship, there are themes and ways to handle conflict that will stand out as useful or applicable, but it does not hurt to mention that not everyone in a bad relationship is dating someone with one of the 3 personality disorders. Bad relationships can be, and are often related to issues other than one partner having a personality disorder. This book exclusively focuses on relationships where 1 partner has one of the 3 following personality disorders :
3. Anti Social/Sociopathic
From a psychology perspective, this book was very interesting and I enjoyed it. Unfortunately, I didn't think the message would be so narrowly defined by stories and advice tailored just to those with personality disordered partners. I guess it has made me realize my GF isn't as crazy as someone with a personality disorder but it didn't provide the advice I was looking for.
The crazy lesbians! (ha. thats a joke). This question is n/a.
As others have said, at the beginning of each chapter there is a mistake in the recording where there seems to be the same 45 second blurb about publishing, dates, etc playing under/on top of the book. It is really distracting and pretty ridiculous that a professional product was published with this kind of major flaw and no one has gone back to correct it.