The Three Marriages

  • by David Whyte
  • Narrated by David Whyte
  • 9 hrs and 41 mins
  • Unabridged Audiobook

Publisher's Summary

In The Three Marriages, David Whyte, the best-selling author, poet, and speaker, asks you to think about your significant relationship to your partner, your work and your inner self in a radically different way by drawing them into a mutually supportive conversation. According to Whyte, we humans are involved not just with one marriage with a significant other. We also have made secret vows to our work and unspoken vows to an inner, constantly developing self. These Three Marriages constantly surprise us, and they demand larger and renewed dedication as the years go by. Whyte's thesis is that to separate these marriages in order to balance them is to destroy the fabric of happiness itself; that in each of these marriages, will, effort, and hard work are overused, overrated, and in many ways self-defeating. Happiness, Whyte says, is possible, but only if we re-imagine how we inhabit the worlds of love, work, and self-understanding. Whyte argues that it is not possible to sacrifice one marriage for any of the others without causing deep psychological damage. He looks to a different way of seeing and bringing these relationships together and invites us to examine each marriage with a fierce but affectionate eye as he shows the nonnegotiable nature at the core of each commitment. Only by understanding the journey involved in each of the Three Marriages and the stages of their maturation, he says, can we understand how to bring them together in one fulfilled life.


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I have to start by saying that I've been a huge fan of David Whyte since reading his life-altering book, "The Heart Aroused: Poetry and Preservation of the Soul in Corporate America" in the mid-1990s. It's no exaggeration to say that the principles Whyte introduced in this book revolutionized my perspectives on everything from the labor needed to discover one's true work to the meaning and poetics of failure in one's life. I probably read "The Heart Aroused" a dozen times and have quoted from it hundreds of times, often to students at the college where I teach. Within the context of that previous work, then, I was delighted to find "The Three Marriages" equally or even more astonishing in scope and originality. In this audio book--made all the more enjoyable by Whyte's beautiful English accent and poet's cadence--you will find a wealth of insights--so many, in fact, that you will need to listen to the book again and again to absorb them. I take it for walks and listen to it when I wake up in the middle of the night. It's a book of rare love and beauty, a special present to give yourself, the one person, as Whyte points out, most in need of your love.
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- Elizabeth

Much better listened to

I could not make a dent in this book when I tried to read it. Listening to David Whyte read it made it a wonderful experience.
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- George

Book Details

  • Release Date: 02-05-2009
  • Publisher: Brilliance Audio