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Straightforward in its approach, yet profound in its effect, the principles outlined in this book teach partners new and startling strategies for making marriage work. Gottman has scientifically analyzed the habits of married couples and established a method of correcting the behavior that puts thousands of marriages on the rocks. He helps couples to focus on one another and pay attention to the small day-to-day moments that, strung together, make up the heart and soul of any relationship. Gottman has culled seven principles essential to the success of any marriage:


Maintain a love map
Foster fondness and admiration
Turn toward instead of away
Accept influence
Solve solvable conflicts
Cope with conflicts you can't resolve
Create shared meaning
Packed with questionnaires and exercises whose effectiveness has been proven in Dr. Gottman's workshops, this is the definitive guide for any couple who wants their relationship to realize its highest potential.
©1999 John Gottam, Ph.D. and Nan Silver (P)2011 Tantor
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Critic Reviews

"Gottman comes to this endeavor with the best of qualifications: he's got the spirit of a scientist and the soul of a romantic." (Newsweek)
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By Jason on 11-16-11

DON'T BUY THIS AUDIO BOOK WITHOUT PRINT TOO

This book was written with many tables, surveys, forms etc. They are all read aloud and in a non-logical order so they make no sense at all!

I bought this then had to buy the kindle version just so I could read the tables and use the forms. Ridiculous waste of money.

Content was good but I could have received that through the kindle version in a cheaper, more productive and less infuriating form.

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By A. S. on 08-20-13

Great for someone too busy to read... but

What made the experience of listening to The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work the most enjoyable?

I absolutely loved this book and all the concepts the author presented. I first heard about this professor in the book "Brain Rules," where Dr. Gottman was referenced for his extensive marital research and ability to predict divorce with astounding accuracy. I enjoyed this book very much. I have one comment to add about the audiobook version-- the book is more like a workbook, and the lists in the book can get boring hearing them read to you.

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By Glen on 02-15-17

Brilliant

Great book to help couples understand the reality of being in a relationship, with plenty of useful Ross for dealing with issues.

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By Amazon Customer on 02-10-17

A wonderful help

This book is the antidote to average therapists. Such brilliant, pragmatic yet principled, humorous advice. I cannot recommend this enough. Having only just begun to follow John Gottman's advice, my partner and I are already better communicators.

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By Anonymous User on 12-15-17

good book

i highly recommend this book for anyone who wantd to work on their relationship . well structured and simple .

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