• The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work

  • A Practical Guide from the Country's Foremost Relationship Expert
  • By: John M.; Nan Gottman; Silver
  • Narrated by: John Allen Nelson
  • Length: 8 hrs and 28 mins
  • Unabridged Audiobook
  • Release date: 03-28-11
  • Language: English
  • Publisher: Tantor Audio
  • 4.5 out of 5 stars 4.4 (1,076 ratings)

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Publisher's Summary

Straightforward in its approach, yet profound in its effect, the principles outlined in this book teach partners new and startling strategies for making marriage work. Gottman has scientifically analyzed the habits of married couples and established a method of correcting the behavior that puts thousands of marriages on the rocks. He helps couples to focus on one another and pay attention to the small day-to-day moments that, strung together, make up the heart and soul of any relationship. Gottman has culled seven principles essential to the success of any marriage:


Maintain a love map
Foster fondness and admiration
Turn toward instead of away
Accept influence
Solve solvable conflicts
Cope with conflicts you can't resolve
Create shared meaning
Packed with questionnaires and exercises whose effectiveness has been proven in Dr. Gottman's workshops, this is the definitive guide for any couple who wants their relationship to realize its highest potential.
©1999 John Gottam, Ph.D. and Nan Silver (P)2011 Tantor
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Critic Reviews

"Gottman comes to this endeavor with the best of qualifications: he's got the spirit of a scientist and the soul of a romantic." ( Newsweek)
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1 out of 5 stars
By Jason on 11-16-11

DON'T BUY THIS AUDIO BOOK WITHOUT PRINT TOO

This book was written with many tables, surveys, forms etc. They are all read aloud and in a non-logical order so they make no sense at all!

I bought this then had to buy the kindle version just so I could read the tables and use the forms. Ridiculous waste of money.

Content was good but I could have received that through the kindle version in a cheaper, more productive and less infuriating form.

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5 out of 5 stars
By A. S. on 08-20-13

Great for someone too busy to read... but

What made the experience of listening to The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work the most enjoyable?

I absolutely loved this book and all the concepts the author presented. I first heard about this professor in the book "Brain Rules," where Dr. Gottman was referenced for his extensive marital research and ability to predict divorce with astounding accuracy. I enjoyed this book very much. I have one comment to add about the audiobook version-- the book is more like a workbook, and the lists in the book can get boring hearing them read to you.

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5 out of 5 stars
By Glen on 02-15-17

Brilliant

Great book to help couples understand the reality of being in a relationship, with plenty of useful Ross for dealing with issues.

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4 out of 5 stars
By lisa on 03-31-18

Good advice

After this book was cited a few times by a relationship expert in a serious Norwegian newspaper I decided to buy it. Good advice, examples and exercises. Easy to understand for those who've been in a long term relationship. Every married couple should read this book.

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5 out of 5 stars
By irena on 02-09-18

I have this book in hardcover too!

Best relationship book I've come across! makes so much sense. I have this book in hardcover too and I've leant it out to multiple friends

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5 out of 5 stars
By Anonymous User on 12-15-17

good book

i highly recommend this book for anyone who wantd to work on their relationship . well structured and simple .

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