The New Codependency

Help and Guidance for Today's Generation

By: Melody Beattie

Narrated by: Lorna Raver

Length: 10 hrs and 19 mins

Publisher's summary

In Codependent No More, Melody Beattie introduced the world to the term codependency. Now a modern classic, this book established Beattie as a pioneer in self-help literature and endeared her to millions of people who longed for healthier relationships. Twenty-five years later, concepts such as "self-care" and "setting boundaries" have become entrenched in mainstream culture.

Now Beattie has written a follow-up volume, The New Codependency, which clears up misconceptions about codependency, identifies how codependent behavior has changed, and provides a new generation with a road map to wellness.

The question remains: What is and what isn't codependency? Beattie here reminds us that much of codependency is normal behavior. It's about crossing lines. There are times we do too much, care too much, feel too little, or overly engage. Feeling resentment after giving is not the same as heartfelt generosity. Narcissism and self-love, enabling and nurturing, and controlling and setting boundaries are not interchangeable terms.

In The New Codependency, Beattie explores these differences, effectively invoking her own inspiring story and those of others, to empower us to step out of the victim role forever. Codependency, she shows, is not an illness but rather a series of behaviors that once broken down and analyzed can be successfully combated.

Each section offers an overview of and a series of activities pertaining to a particular behavior - caretaking, controlling, manipulation, denial, repression, etc. - enabling us to personalize our own step-by-step guide to wellness. These sections, in conjunction with a series of tests allowing us to assess the level of our codependent behavior, demonstrate that while it may not seem possible now, we have the power to take care of ourselves, no matter what we are experiencing.

Punctuated with Beattie's renowned candor and intuitive wisdom, The New Codependency is an owner's manual to learnin...

©2009 Melody Beattie (P)2009 Tantor

Are You Codependent?

I was in a 30+ year codependent relationship. I didn't realize how codependent I was until I read this book. The chapters and the exercises have taught me how overcome this behavior, how to recognize it in others, and how to set boundaries. I even purchased the paperback so I could follow along better.

Must listen for anyone!

Recognition of what you do to bring the life you are tired of back to you over and over again is half the battle. This book is an easy listen, but will make you get real with yourself and see things in an entirely new light. I identified personally with entirely too many of the stories. This book helped me step back, and step forward in a new way.

resource

A very insightful book. I will listen to it again.
The narrator is very good.

When we know better, we do better

Powerful. How humble and wise an author to revisit her own words and give more understanding to us all.

Excellent

The Narrator was awesome and humorous. The message hit home..suggestions are received and action initiated

On Point

I found the book relatable to every relationship you could have from a neighbor, co-worker, to a love one. Made me look at my interaction with people differently.

Codeoendency

Would you try another book from Melody Beattie and/or Lorna Raver?

dont like the narrator. It just sounds wrong. Not convincing. Need a storyteller that makes the subject matter sound relevant not rehearsed.

Would you be willing to try another book from Melody Beattie? Why or why not?

yes, a book, because of the lessons, it is hard to stop while listening. I think she is doing important work, groundbreaking in the 70's

How could the performance have been better?

more vocal inflections, or maybe not so bright and up at all times

Did The New Codependency inspire you to do anything?

yes, did out my original copy and wonder why I paid for the same old information but without the update on how well her life is now that she is out, great life update..go team Melogy

Life Changing If you allow it!

Loved if from start to finish! Melody takes you through your own personal journey to healing and self reflection. Definitely a MUST READ if you deal with addiction in any facets!

Brilliant- a must-have for every co-dependent!

What a brilliant book! I hung on to every word, as
clearly the author has done it again with her brilliant guidance on what is a very painful, adaptation: co-dependence. Melodie is truly a world expert, who wrote yet another classic. So many people suffer from their own co-dependence, and that of others, and without the right help, life can be unmanageable. Please get this book, if you are searching for valuable, reliable information and suggestions that work! One of my favorites: catch and release all difficult feelings, and what is your excessive guilt really about? Did I say that I love this book, and highly recommend it? :)

-A grateful fan

Amazing

Great book in the moment when I needed it most. Lessons I will take with me.