• The Dance of Anger

  • A Woman's Guide to Changing the Patterns of Intimate Relationships
  • By: Harriet Lerner Ph.D.
  • Narrated by: Harriet Lerner
  • Length: 2 hrs and 58 mins
  • Abridged
  • Release date: 12-16-99
  • Language: English
  • Publisher: HarperAudio
  • 4.1 (359 ratings)

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Publisher's Summary

While anger deserves our attention and respect, women still learn to silence our anger, to deny it entirely, or to vent it in a way that leaves us feeling helpless and powerless. In this vivid, engaging and eminently wise work, Dr. Lerner teaches women to identify the true sources of anger and to use anger as a powerful vehicle for creating meaningful and lasting change. The challenge of anger is at the heart of our struggle with intimacy, self-esteem, and joy. The Dance of Anger has inspired more "You changed my life" stories from both women and men than perhaps any other best seller on the American scene today.
©1985 Harriet Lerner, Ph.D. (P)1997, 2004 HarperCollins Publishers, Inc.
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Critic Reviews

"An inspirational message for all women....Like a family heirloom, it can be passed from generation to generation, as it is based on profound and lasting truths." (Peggy Papp, M.S.W., The Ackerman Institute for Family Therapy)
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By Sharon on 04-28-03

Very helpful audiobook

This book was recommended to me by my counselor and fortunately I found it on audible.com! My counselor said that she thought it was very psychologically sound and that kind of thing. As far as I know (I'm no psychologist however), that's right.

The narrator (author) has a slight accent and her voice isn't exactly lively or full of enthusiasm, but it's certainly not boring once you listen to it for a while. I didn't fall asleep or start tuning out the narrator when I was listening.

I found this book really interesting and helpful. It gave me a lot of insight on how to deal with anger and with people that I have conflicts with. It talks about relationships between couples a lot but I'm not married and I still found the advice helpful for dealing with family members, roommates (in college), and other people I know.

For me, it was a book I had to take in small doses. I couldn't listen to it in consecutive days when I went running as I do with other audiobooks (primarily novels) because I needed time to digest things that I heard. Psychology isn't as easy for me to take in large doses as it is for me to take in novels and stories.

Another thing is that I am a really visual learner and for a book like this, I would probably find it more helpful to read it in book form so I could highlight certain parts and go back to it when I need to later on. I don't usually listen to really information packed stuff and remember it all that well. But I'm still glad I bought the audiobook because it was a good way to get through the book quickly even though I can't remember all the advice I got from it. I got to listen to it all and maybe later I'll buy the book and then go back an reread it slowly, underlining stuff and processing it and applying it slowly. But who knows, maybe if I listen to it a couple times I'll be able to get it as ingrained into my system as I would by physically reading it.

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By Ann on 12-24-08

Dance of Anger

The audio missed to much of the book to be understood. We need an unabridged version of the book.

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13 of 13 people found this review helpful

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By SSW on 03-15-16

Does not follow the book

I downloaded the audible to listen along whilst reading the book. The audible misses huge sections out and is therefore too brief. Dissappointed overall.

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2 of 2 people found this review helpful

By Mark on 09-19-16

not very pleaseant voice

the book was good, but it was very difficult to listen to the voice of the author.

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By Carol on 05-24-17

highly recommend

Really valuable and helpful information presented in a clear and relatable way. Gave me a healthy way to view my anger and that of my partner as well as other important relationships.

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By Rheannen on 07-17-16

Great Content and Approachable Narration

Would you listen to The Dance of Anger again? Why?

I would definitely listen to this book again.
Lerner provides very helpful examples and advice for analysing our moments of anger and turning the scenario around to allow the recognition of anger create constructive changes in our lives and our relationships with other.
Her narration is natural and engaging, and there were some moments that made me laugh.
I genuinely enjoyed listening to this book and will probably go back to it in order to keep remembering her tips.

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