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Publisher's Summary

Jean-Benoît Nadeau and Julie Barlow spent a decade traveling back and forth to Paris as well as living there. Yet one important lesson never seemed to sink in: how to communicate comfortably with the French, even when you speak their language. In The Bonjour Effect, Jean-Benoît and Julie chronicle the lessons they learned after they returned to France to live, for a year, with their twin daughters. They offer up all the lessons they learned and explain, in a book as fizzy as a bottle of the finest French champagne, the most important aspect of all: the French don't communicate; they converse.
To understand and speak French well, one must understand that French conversation runs on a set of rules that go to the heart of French culture. Why do the French like talking about "the decline of France"? Why does broaching a subject like money end all discussion? Why do the French become so aroused debating the merits and qualities of their own language?
Through encounters with school principals, city hall civil servants, gas company employees, old friends, and business acquaintances, Julie and Jean-Benoît explain why, culturally and historically, conversation with the French is not about communicating or being nice. It's about being interesting.
©2016 Julie Barlow and Jean-Benoît Nadeau (P)2017 Tantor
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Critic Reviews

"The authors clearly had a ball researching the book, and their glee is infectious. The writing is as light as it is substantive, and if that sounds like a contradiction, I would refer you to a soufflé." ( The New York Times)
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3 out of 5 stars
By Rob-o on 02-05-18

Interesting but a bit unfocused at times

I have lived in France for nearly 6 years between the ages of 32 and 38 while raising two children. I grew up in America. I think the authors did a good job of communicating many interesting and not necessarily well known aspects of French society, yet some of the anecdotes seemed a bit peripheral to me.

On another note, I didn’t agree with a number of the analyses in the book, and would say that about 2/3 of what the authors said resonates with our experience in France so far. There was a fair amount of quoting one or two academic studies as authorities on a certain aspect of French society or culture, when I thought there were other better explanations of the phenomena described.

I will recommend this book to people before or during a stay in France… but to be taken with a grain of salt realizing that the reader may come to different conclusions about the way French people act.

It’s full of personal anecdotes and stories. There’s also a certain amount of explanation of politics and society. FYI It is written with certain chapters by him and certain chapters by her.

Thinking about these issues, using the stories the authors describe, will be very useful as outsiders attempt to interact successfully with French people.

Final note- I wasn’t crazy about the narration, in part because, although she had a sort of French-sounding accent, she grossly mis-pronounced a number of French words. It’s no big deal but for most, but for readers who speak French, it gave an air of false authenticity to the book which is no fault of the authors. And if you don’t speak French, you may find the large number of French words and expressions difficult to mentally re-transcribe as pronounced.

Worth reading, yet I wonder if there isn’t a better intro to French culture book out there.

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5 out of 5 stars
By Paul on 01-25-18

Extremely useful

Extremely useful for anyone visiting France. Very helpful for contrasting social conversations that differ between Europe and N America.

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