• That's Not What I Meant

  • By: Deborah Tannen
  • Narrated by: Deborah Tannen
  • Length: 1 hr and 24 mins
  • Abridged Audiobook
  • Release date: 03-10-10
  • Language: English
  • Publisher: Simon & Schuster Audio
  • 3.5 out of 5 stars 3.7 (44 ratings)

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Publisher's Summary

You know the feeling: You thought you said exactly what you wanted to, but somehow a different message comes across. You end up feeling misunderstood...and the relationship that you're building -- at home, on the job, on a date, or in an interview -- slips a little further out of your control.
Talk is the key to any relationship and conversational style is the key to any conversation. In That's Not What I Meant!, Dr. Tannen helps you recognize your own conversational style and understand the styles of others.
Whether you are dealing with a person who's too quiet or someone who's a conversational bulldozer, learning to understand conversational style will help you deal with any situation. Through this understanding, you can prevent small differences from sparking big arguments, really hear what was said -- and what wasn't.
That's Not What I Meant! will give you the tools to save any conversation -- or relationship.
©1987 Deborah Tannen (P)1991 Simon & Schuster
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4 out of 5 stars
By KellysHero718 on 04-02-15

Insightful, As Always

Excellent information, excellent advice, but not enough of it. I didn't realize this was a severely abridged version of Tannen's work, or I would have looked for it elsewhere.

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4 out of 5 stars
By raymond colon on 07-20-18

Good read

Insightful on how we all have different communication styles and some good general suggestions on how to avoid miscommunication.

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