• by Bill Eddy, Randi Kreger
  • Narrated by Jeffrey Kafer
  • 6 hrs and 48 mins
  • Unabridged Audiobook

Publisher's Summary

Divorce is difficult under the best of circumstances. When your spouse has borderline personality disorder (BPD), narcissistic personality disorder (NPD), or is manipulative, divorcing can be especially complicated. While people with these tendencies may initially appear convincing and even charming to lawyers and judges, you know better - many of these "persuasive blamers" leverage false accusations, attempt to manipulate others, launch verbal and physical attacks, and do everything they can to get their way. Splitting is your legal and psychological guide to safely navigating a high-conflict divorce from an unpredictable spouse. Written by Bill Eddy, a family lawyer, therapist, and divorce mediator, and Randi Kreger, coauthor of the BPD classic Stop Walking on Eggshells, this book includes all of the critical information you need to work through the process of divorce in an emotionally balanced, productive way. Turn to this guide to help you:

Predict what your spouse may do or say in court
Take control of your case with assertiveness and strategic thinking
Choose a lawyer who understands your case
Learn how emails and social networking can be used against you


What the Critics Say

"Splitting provides concise, clear, and invaluable advice for strategically navigating a divorce from someone who has narcissistic or borderline personality disorder. Following the suggestions laid out in this book will greatly increase the [listeners'] odds of having a successful marital dissolution under these difficult circumstances." (Susan Pease Gadoua, LCSW, author of Contemplating Divorce)


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Customer Reviews

Most Helpful

Effective narration, strong voice...

Really gets the point across...but after more than 20 years of abuse and still not finding a good pro bono attorney, the style of the narration left me feeling more intimidated, less protected, more vulnerable, more scared of my abuser and his attorney. I praise it for being very thorough, but it was very triggering for me to listen to. On top of that, it's left me feeling like I am totally under the gun to recreated everything on paper, repair lost and broken relationships, etc, overnight. These are things I have only a few weeks to do, to represent the over 20 years of horrible, soul-destroying abuse, and I'm not sure I can do it in this timeframe. DONT PASS UP THIS RESOURCE! LISTEN *NOW* AND BE PREPARED!!!! I just think it might benefit from being re-recorded, slightly softer... that's all. It really scared the hell out of my already scrambled, WAY over-andrenalinized, hypervigilant limbic system!!! AWESOME RESOURCE!!!!!
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- Ri M

Read this Now if You are Divorcing a Borderline

What did you love best about Splitting?

Very useful advice about the court system and custody matters, with advice from two experts who give specific to people who are in a court battle with someone who suffers from borderline and or narcissistic/antisocial traits.

Well written and well read. More than worth the price if you are involved in such a situation, think you might be in the future, or just want to know more about personality disorders.

What other book might you compare Splitting to and why?

Stop Walking on Eggshells by Randi Krieger. Written by one of the authors and a more comprehensive overview of BPD and NPD.

Have you listened to any of Jeffrey Kafer’s other performances before? How does this one compare?


Was this a book you wanted to listen to all in one sitting?


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- Stephen Curtis

Book Details

  • Release Date: 10-22-2012
  • Publisher: Tantor Audio