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Publisher's Summary

Writing from firsthand experience, Allison Bottke identifies the lies that kept her, and ultimately her son, in bondage - and how she overcame them. Additional real-life stories from other parents appear throughout the audio.
A tough-love guide to coping with dysfunctional adult children, Setting Boundaries with Your Adult Children will empower families by offering hope and healing through S.A.N.I.T.Y. - a six-step program to help parents regain control in their homes and in their lives.
S = STOP enabling, STOP blaming yourself, and STOP the flow of money
A = Assemble a support group
N = Nip excuses in the bud
I = Implement rules/boundaries
T = Trust your instincts
Y = Yield everything to God
©2008 Allison Gappa Bottke (P)2016 Tantor
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Critic Reviews

" Setting Boundaries with Your Adult Children is packed full of practical, useable, workable ideas and is a welcome tool for parents of grown children, and parents in pain." (Pam Farrel, author of Men Are Like Waffles)
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5 out of 5 stars
By Amazon Customer on 06-10-16

Absolutely Liberating!

This book is a must-have for parents of prodigal sons and daughters. As a parent of two sons who are in different types of prison, I daily release my sons to God. God is helping me to understand that He does not need my help, and when I do intervene, I do more harm than good. This book is just confirmation that I am on the right path in stopping my enabling behavior.

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1 out of 5 stars
By Mickerj on 10-20-16

Way too Religious, thinking about returning it.

What could have made this a 4 or 5-star listening experience for you?

I am having a hard time getting through this book. I think it could be very helpful but I didn't realize how religious it is. I can only "give it to God" so many times. I need concrete steps and so far I haven't gotten any. I don't need scripture read and quoted to me. I think this should be sold as a Christian book and there needs to be some kind of warning.

What was most disappointing about Allison Bottke’s story?

Way too Religious

What about Margaret Strom’s performance did you like?

She's fine. I have no issue with her reading

What reaction did this book spark in you? Anger, sadness, disappointment?


Any additional comments?

If you are not religious and are just looking for concrete help don't bother with this book. I am looking for something else.

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2 of 2 people found this review helpful

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3 out of 5 stars
By Amazon Customer on 01-03-17

Narrator put me off listening

What did you like best about Setting Boundaries with Your Adult Children? What did you like least?

The content of the book was okay, but I found the narrator very off-putting because of poor phrasing, pauses in wrong places, and generally a bit monotonous.

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