This is the intriguing true story of Pam Evans, who has been married and divorced more times than she wants to admit and has lived to tell the tale - with honesty, humor and a heartfelt message for her readers.
Pam isn’t shy about revealing that her many treks down the aisle eventually led from the altar to the divorce court. During a 13-year hiatus from saying, "I do," Pam used this time to reflect on her past relationship choices and often hasty decisions. Her discoveries about her personality type and how it influenced her actions helped her gain new knowledge and take responsibility, allowing her to finally break her multi-relationship and marriage pattern. Pam says, "Some people get lucky when it comes to relationships and marriage! But, luck isn’t a strategy." She coaches her clients to first envision the life they want and then integrate their desired partner into their flexible plan.
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Introspective with a dash of humor!
The most pivotal moment in the book for me was the loss of the author's mother and the subsequent move with her father to her grandparent's home. The family dynamic, while not particularly unusual, seemed to have a higher rate of divorce. Since this event occurred in the author's formative years, it no doubt shaped the author's view of marriage. I'm always intrigued how events so long ago can leave an impact on the way we live our lives well into adulthood.
I was excited to listen to this book as I am also guilty of having been married more than once. If you ask me how many, I'll tell you "more than one, but less than five", as per the author's advice!
Although this is meant to be an introspective look into why some marry more than once, I enjoyed how the author kept it upbeat and humorous. The author attempts to strip some of the stigma away and get to the heart of the matter, how to change this behavior some of us find ourselves in. I enjoyed this was from a woman's perspective as we are the ones left with the "Scarlett Letters" on our chest after a name change, or two. Men can go on with their life with no paper trail, so to speak.
I would recommend this book to anyone, married, single, serial monogamist, happily married as the author, through trial and error, does have some sound relationship advice.
My only complaint was I felt the book was a bit redundant in places, but overall a fantastic, enjoyable read!
I received a copy of this book in exchange for an honest review.
Marriage is tricky...even with experience
I thought this was one of the better marriage self-help books for the reason that the author was in the situation many times. This sounds silly because if the author had many issues in her marriages how could it help me save mine or pick my right guy? Well, because in each relationship that Ms. Evans had, she was able to look back and see mistakes and what she learned from each relationship. Sometimes it is hard to see these things while you are in it but once you are out, you can see things, you can see the big picture. She was able to share her experience which may help others see and avoid things before they become too big of an issue. She also interviews others and so it is not solely her perspective that you are listening to. I am married and only once, but there are lessons that I learned in this book that assist me in noticing things that I can avoid in my marriage and how to solve issues that may arise. The underlying message is that marriage can be tricky, even if you have experience in it. There are things that are going to arise but you have to understand who you are and what you want before you can go about being with someone else in a marriage. Marriage is uniting two people, two lifestyles, two characteristics, two different personalities, two futures and making it fit into one. You have to be ready to adjust, be strong, be flexible, and etc.
I received a copy of this book (audio) in exchange for an honest review.