Opening Up

  • by Tristan Taormino
  • Narrated by Jo Anna Perrin
  • 11 hrs and 14 mins
  • Unabridged Audiobook

Publisher's Summary

Relationship expert and bestselling author Tristan Taormino offers a bold new strategy for creating loving, lasting relationships. Drawing on in-depth interviews with over a hundred women and men, Opening Up explores the real-life benefits and challenges of all styles of open relationships - from partnered non-monogamy to solo polyamory. With her refreshingly down-to-earth style and sharp wit, Taormino offers solutions for making an open relationship work, including tips on dealing with jealousy, negotiating boundaries, finding community, parenting and time management. Opening Up will change the way you think about intimacy.
Tristan Taormino is an authority in the field of erotica and sexuality. Along with working as a feminist author, columnist, activist, and educator, she has been featured as Out magazines 100 Gay Success Stories of the Year and The Advocate's Best and Brightest Gay & Lesbian People Under 30. In addition to all of this, Taormino recently appeared in the E! Special "The Real 50 Shades of Grey."


What the Critics Say

"This is the book you want to read if you're looking for a voice that is balanced, sensitive and sensible when tackling the thorny question of sexual boundaries in love relationships. Opening Up is sure to open up your mind." (Esther Perel, author of Mating in Captivity)


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Customer Reviews

Most Helpful

At least it was informative.

The narration was distracting, in that the narrator did "voices" to differentiate the various people's quotations. The voices were less bothersome than the characterizations - speaking slower or squeekier. The material is decidedly dry. I do not recommend it, nor will I listen to it again unless under duress.
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- Michelle Weiss


While the material is well researched, the self selecting group that comprises the interviewed couples is heavily weighted towards BDSM, swingers, and PolyFidelity groups. As such, the book is heavily favored towards hierarchy, primary relationships, and unethical codependent behaviors such as hiring secondary partners through periodic returns to monogamy. PolyFidelity is an extremely tiny fraction of new Polyamorous people, and is evident by the ages of the people interviewed who are baby-boomers and generation x'rs. Many of the relationship styles in this book are considered unhealthy and unethical by current standards. The author replies heavily on outdated books and ideas from spiritualism books and texts from decades past. Polyamory has quickly evolved to mainly consist of SoloPoly and non-fidelity partnered Poly, with the later even losing favor. This book is now a very poor guide for modern nonmonogamists, with ideas of rules, 6 page written agreements, and lack of empathy for non-primary relationships. Coupled readers are better off reading "More Than Two" for a modern look at ethical partnered polyamory, and "The Ethical Slut" remains the top book for those interested in SoloPoly.
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- DeWayne

Book Details

  • Release Date: 09-30-2011
  • Publisher: Tantor Audio