• Modern Romance

  • An Investigation
  • By: Aziz Ansari
  • Narrated by: Aziz Ansari
  • Length: 6 hrs and 14 mins
  • Unabridged
  • Release date: 06-16-15
  • Language: English
  • Publisher: Penguin Books Ltd
  • 4.5 (126 ratings)

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Publisher's Summary

At some point every one of us embarks on a journey to find love. We meet people, date, get into and out of relationships, all with the hope of finding someone with whom we share a deep connection. This seems standard now, but it's wildly different from what people did even just decades ago. Single people today have more romantic options than at any point in human history. With technology, our abilities to connect with and sort through these options are staggering. So why are so many people frustrated?
Some of our problems are unique to our time."Why did this guy just text me an emoji of a pizza?" "Should I go out with this girl even though she listed Combos as one of her favorite snack foods? Combos?!" "My girlfriend just got a message from some dude named Nathan. Who's Nathan? Did he just send her a photo of his penis? Should I check just to be sure?"
But the transformation of our romantic lives can't be explained by technology alone. In a short period of time, the whole culture of finding love has changed dramatically. A few decades ago, people would find a decent person who lived in their neighbourhood. Their families would meet and, after deciding neither party seemed like a murderer, they would get married and soon have a kid, all by the time they were 24. Today people marry later than ever and spend years of their lives on a quest to find the perfect person, a soul mate.
For years Aziz Ansari has been aiming his comic insight at modern romance, but for Modern Romance the book, he decided he needed to take things to another level. He teamed up with NYU sociologist Eric Klinenberg and designed a massive research project, including hundreds of interviews and focus groups conducted everywhere from Tokyo to Buenos Aires to Wichita. They analysed behavioural data and surveys and created their own online research forum on Reddit, which drew thousands of messages. They enlisted the world's leading social scientists, including Eli Finkel, Helen Fisher, Sheena Iyengar, Barry Schwartz, Sherry Turkle, and Robb Willer. The result is unlike any social science or humour book we've seen before.
In Modern Romance, Ansari combines his irreverent humour with cutting-edge social science to give us an unforgettable tour of our new romantic world.
©2015 Aziz Ansari (P)2015 Penguin Books Limited
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By Amazon Customer on 07-23-17

Incredible.

This should be mandatory reading / listening for anyone struggling with today's climate for romance. This reading, in particular, feels like it's the right way to appreciate the subject matter, Aziz being as hilarious as he is.

10/10 would swipe right.

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By Abhishek Anand on 06-29-17

Aziz Ansari

This was a great pick as a first audio book. Aziz's ensures that he keeps u entertained throughout with his funny voices. Doubt if the paperback wud be worth the read though.

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By Howard on 02-17-17

Funny performance of a rather unenlightening book

Not sure what I was expecting from this book but I didn't really learn much apart from a whole bunch of obvious stuff that you would have known already if you're watching how people of different ages behave around this topic. Younger generations treat each other with less respect, technology devalues individual interactions, online dating increasing choice but also at the expense of quality, etc. It's all pretty predictable stuff. Probably the most interesting chapter was about non-monogamous relationship types, but this didn't go into a whole lot of depth. In fact in a six hour long book, there wasn't really much time to go into depth on any of these topic. It feels like a quick surface survey rather than a full investigation.

It's amusing in places and well performed, but afterwards I didn't really feel I'd got my money's worth.

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By Mr Kipling on 12-19-16

A lighthearted take on the romantic modern scene

An overall good book, although not as enlightening for the younger reader. As a 22 year old I found a significant portion of it to be stuff I already knew.
The humour, although occasionally hit and miss is generally good, especially if you're an existing fan of Aziz Ansari.
The reading of the book is fairly good, although he has a habit of reading quickly, and can sound a little monotonous at times. I didn't notice this often enough to disrupt my enjoyment of the book however.

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By Thomas on 04-30-16

Aziz as you'd expect

This book was forwarded to me by a friend as a gift. I'd seen some of Aziz on Netflix as well as listening to some on Spotify. I, being a relatively successful middle class single male really get a lot out of this dude. My friend I think feels I need to move into the dating scene a bit more seriously. Not that I can't get dates, just that I don't really try, or am quite happily occupied with what already goes on around me. After listening to this though I believe I probably avoid dating which is sad. I'm awesome and have a lot to offer. Aziz's book Modern Romance is very well researched and takes a look at modern and historical dating from a variety of cultures. The biggest thing I got out of it is not to expect to have met the perfect chick on the first or second date, but that like with anything, perfection takes time and that is the same with people. Meet them 5 or 6 or 10 times before moving on. Or not moving on. I know this sounds simple, and it's something I've known. But it was good to hear it from someone as cool as Aziz.

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By Juzzarghh on 03-08-16

Refreshing, entertaining and funny.

Having Aziz read and commentate the book gave it that extra level of authenticity. I found this book to be insightful, entertaining and fun. I'd highly recommend it to anyone born mid 80s to mid 90s. This is exactly what we need in the age of technological advancement and cultural shifts. Well done Aziz.

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