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Editorial Reviews

Steven Carter and Julia Sokol's seminal relationship book offers a thorough, penetrating examination of the complex behavior and psychology of commitment-phobic males who, as stated in the book, can go from "attentive and caring to distant and hurtful for apparent reason".
Kevin Young's accomplished, measured performance reflects the high esteem with which these groundbreaking interviews and case studies are held in the field of relationship therapy, and his genial, conversational tone keeps the listener interested throughout this thought-provoking work.
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Publisher's Summary

The million-copy New York Times best seller and classic relationship book.
Featured on Oprah and Sally Jesse Raphael, this definitive look at the dynamics of male-female communication gets to the heart of the all-too-common phenomenon: women who are ready and willing to commit, and men who back off just as the relationship moves toward the next level.
This audiobook can help you:


Recognize early warning signs of the commitmentphobic man
Determine the extent of his fears - and his willingness to change
Analyze your own role in the situation
Avoid unnecessary stress and heartache

©1987, 1996 Steven Carter and Julia Sokol Coopersmith (P)2012 Audible, Inc.
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5 out of 5 stars
By Rhonda on 05-02-14

Best audiobook I have ever listened to!!!!

Would you consider the audio edition of Men Who Can't Love to be better than the print version?

I have never written a review on any book before, however, I highly recommend this book for anyone that has a habit of getting involved with men that come on very strong in the beginning to win you over and then decide that they don't want a serious committment. If you have been left confused by this in the past, believe me, this book will help you to see the signs of a committment phobic man from the very first date and help you to set the ground rules for the relationship right from the start. No more confusion or broken hearts for me. Now they play by my rules. And I can finally say that I can spot a player a mile away and know now what a healthy relationship is.This is seriously the best audiobook I have ever listened to and I am now buying the second book....He's Scared She's Scared. I will write a review on that one when I finish it.

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8 of 8 people found this review helpful

5 out of 5 stars
By Sharon on 08-05-15

This book restored my sanity!!!

If you could sum up Men Who Can't Love in three words, what would they be?

Set me free.

What did you like best about this story?

This book helped me to put together all of the pieces of the puzzle. The puzzle being, I just ended a relationship with a commitment phobic. A man that treated me so badly, but that I was sitting around crying for. I thought I was going crazy. How could I yearn to be with someone that treated me so badly. Someone so mean and cruel and heartless. But this book helped me to understand it all. The beginning, the middle, the end and the bitter end. It helped me to understand what to look for in the future so that I never become involved with a commitment phobic man again.

Which character – as performed by Kevin Young – was your favorite?

I related more to the stories in "The Bitter End".

What insight do you think you’ll apply from Men Who Can't Love?

I will be much more cautious of a man that comes on so strong in the beginning. I will never allow the relationship to proceed too quickly. I will never compromise my needs for the needs of any man again. I will never allow a man to treat me badly again. I will love myself enough to trust my instincts. Instincts that I know God gave me, but I didn't listen to with this man. If I had listened to my instincts, I could have saved myself a great deal of pain and heartache.

Any additional comments?

I can't begin to tell you how much this book helped me. Being in a relationship with a commitment phobic created so much confusion, and self doubt. I got to the point where I couldn't even focus on my own needs. It is a paralyzing relationship. But this book restored my sanity and it restored my belief in myself and my self worth. I don't think I would have ever have found closure without this book. Also, I found the narrator's voice to be so caring and soothing. Thank you from the bottom of my heart for writing this book.

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