Living and Loving After Betrayal

  • by Steven Stosny
  • Narrated by Arthur Morey
  • 6 hrs and 54 mins
  • Unabridged Audiobook

Publisher's Summary

Betrayal has many faces, including anger, abuse, deceit, and infidelity. These feel like betrayal because they violate the implicit promise of emotional bonds, that your loved one will care about your well-being and never intentionally hurt you. If you've recently left a relationship where you felt betrayed by your partner, you may have difficulty moving on. In fact, it can seem impossible to view the world without the shadow of past betrayal hovering over you. As a result, you may struggle to create meaning in your life and to build new, loving relationships.
In Living and Loving after Betrayal, therapist and relationship expert Steven Stosny offers effective tools for healing, based on his highly successful Compassion Power program. He founded the Compassion Power agency on the belief that we are more powerful when compassionate than when angry or aggressive, and that true strength comes from relating compassionately to others and remaining true to your deeper values.
In this audiobook, you'll learn practical strategies for overcoming betrayal-induced trauma and the chronic resentment and depression that result, using this innovative compassion-empowerment approach. Most audiobooks on betrayal only focus on the obvious issues, such as infidelity, abuse, or sex addiction. This audiobook explores the effects of those kinds of betrayal, as well as less-talked-about types, such as emotional manipulation, dishonesty, deceit, and financial cheating. In addition, the audiobook helps you regain a sense of trust in others so that you can eventually find another compassionate person to share your life with or, if you choose, to rebuild a relationship with your reformed betrayer.


What the Critics Say

"May help sufferers gain insight and move along with life." (Kirkus)


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this book is going to change my life

Would you listen to Living and Loving After Betrayal again? Why?

I am listening to it again, listened to it once and I thought can a audible book help me where living over 2-1/2 years and two therapist, did nothing! I have felt so broken and logical telling of why a person reacts the way they do and tools to help you change. This book is amazing, I can not wait for my husband to get home from his hunting trip and listen to it, so he can understand me and himself better. I have total faith that we will be just fine. Better than fine.

What did you like best about this story?

It makes sense, it made me feel understood and it gave HELP to help yourself.

What insight do you think you’ll apply from Living and Loving After Betrayal?

most of it

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- Kaye "artist, wife, mother, grandmother"

Best of the best with honors.. sir!

What did you love best about Living and Loving After Betrayal?

When my wife left me for an affair I was lost. I read so many books, CDs, internet sites, forums, everything I could to try to understand what had happened. I was so concerned with repairing what she had done.
While many of the other books offered insights into why it happened and the things that led up to it, they never fully talked about what I was going through.
I came to the conclusion that it was my fault and my short comings as her husband. Most of the books centered around breaking up, starting a new relationship, or surviving the affair.
All of them were spot on in their words, especially looking back over this past year since it all happened. Surviving an affair could have been written word for word how it played out.
What this book gave me that the others have not is a clear concise workbook and way to look at her betrayal.
It solidified in my mind that even though I do still blame myself for what led up to her affair, her affair was completely her doing and happened because of her lack of ability to stand true to her values.
It never touched on waiting or trying to survive an affair like the other books. Instead it concentrated on personal healing and a way to look at what had happened using clear examples.
Had I read this right after discovery I may not have gotten much out of it, some time needed to pass before I could accept what it had to say.
This book solidified in my mind that it was right to try to wait out her affair and that she at heart was not a bad person, even though that's not the point. The point is to heal from this before ever thinking about moving on or entertaining taking her back in the current situation.

Id recommend this book above the dozens of others I read when it comes to personal healing.
Should we not decide to divorce I believe the examples in the last section really set a precedent on how that should go according to my needs while simultaneously keeping her in mind.
Should we divorce this book helped me with that as well.

10/10 can't recommend it enough.

Other good books are:
Not just friends - how they start
Surviving an affair - may make you suffer longer than you need to.
Divorce busting- similar to above but less religious
Book of forgiving-
No more mr nice guy - mostly for men who don't wear the pants in their life
Mate - what women really want from men
If only he knew- what your wife thinks
The 5 love languages- should know this for all relationships
His needs her needs- similar to surviving an affair

If you are reading this book than my heart goes out to you. I hope you find peace and the answer you are looking for.
This review was written by all appearances is a very Masculine man who was brought to his knees by betrayal and found a way to stand again.
I hope the same for all of you regardless of the type of betrayal.

Have you listened to any of Arthur Morey’s other performances before? How does this one compare?


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- Joe Davis

Book Details

  • Release Date: 09-17-2013
  • Publisher: Tantor Audio