• It's Ok Not to Share and Other Renegade Rules for Raising Competent and Compassionate Kids

  • By: Heather Shumaker
  • Narrated by: Laurel Lefkow
  • Length: 10 hrs and 5 mins
  • 4.8 out of 5 stars (120 ratings)

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It's Ok Not to Share and Other Renegade Rules for Raising Competent and Compassionate Kids

By: Heather Shumaker
Narrated by: Laurel Lefkow
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Parenting can be such an overwhelming job that it's easy to lose track of where you stand on some of the more controversial subjects at the playground (What if my kid likes to rough house - isn't this ok as long as no one gets hurt? And what if my kid just doesn't feel like sharing?). In this inspiring and enlightening book, Heather Shumaker describes her quest to nail down "the rules" to raising smart, sensitive, and self-sufficient kids. Drawing on her own experiences as the mother of two small children, as well as on the work of child psychologists, pediatricians, educators and so on, in this book Shumaker gets to the heart of the matter on a host of important questions.

©2016 Heather Shumaker (P)2016 Dreamscape Media, LLC

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great book with exception of some disagreeing poin

enjoyed most of the book. Very much challenging the conventionalethods. Disagreed strongly on sexual ads and other topic due to religious beliefs. Also, too much talking in the "rights" language. "your child has the right to this and this". felt like I'm in court. It's more about love and respect and other concepts, not just the right and etc. Since then once they start talking in the "rights" language parents would be damned. Overall a great read.

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liberating advice for parents & children alike

Smart, observant tools for dealing with conflict, setting limits, and using direct, respectful communication with our beloved kiddos, handfuls they may be!

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Wonderful book

I love this book and bought the hard copy so my husband can read it too (and we have a paper copy for quick reference). So many new tools for me to use. "Take off your adult lenses" is a superb idea to better understand the minds of our little ones. Highly recommend this to all parents.

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knowledge is power

when dealing with a non articulate screaming toddler it's hard to know what to do. it's hard to understand what they're thinking how they're developing we are all not all child psychologist and yet we have children. I love this book for its ideas on how to help Kids. On letting go of filling their lives with activities and learning or else they'll be left behind thoughts. it helps you find places where you can be loose and where you need to tighten up that will best help your kids. the author openly admits that this isn't the perfect set of rules but a good guidelines to start with. Just take what you want and leave the rest.

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Technical Issue in Chapter 18, from 18:15 to 19:07

This is an incredible resource for solutions and application for working with and raising your children. A must read for all parents.

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Helps with parent foreboading

Been dreading parenting a toddler soon and this book provided a child’s rights mindset needed.

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Priceless Message for Parents

My family has been fortunate enough to experience the School for Young Children first hand throughout the preschool years of both of our sons. Heather's book stays true to the SYC philosophy and the narration adds to the modeling of examples in this book. If you are someone who wants to honor your kiddos, model healthy attachment and emotional regulation as well as open communication, this book is for you!!! I can't recommend this book enough. It's been over a decade since my kids were at SYC and this early childhood approach has is still yielding positive results for our kids!

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Great book.,a written file for appendix recommended reading should be added to audio version

Great book.,a written file for appendix recommended reading should be added to audio version

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Amazing book highly recommended

Very practical and easy to follow. I have read a few child development books but found a lot of new information here.

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Has some good information.

Has changed my perspective on a few things. I appreciated the logic and have already started implementing some of the ideas in my own parenting.

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