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The quest for perfection is exhausting and unrelenting. We spend too much precious time and energy managing perception and creating carefully edited versions of ourselves to show to the world. As hard as we try, we can't seem to turn off the tapes that fill our heads with messages like, Never good enough! and What will people think?
Why? What fuels this unattainable need to look like we always have it all together? At first glance, we might think its because we admire perfection, but that's not the case. We are actually the most attracted to people we consider to be authentic and down-to-earth. We love people who are real; we're drawn to those who both embrace their imperfections and radiate self-acceptance.
There is a constant barrage of social expectations that teach us that being imperfect is synonymous with being inadequate. Everywhere we turn, there are messages that tell us who, what, and how were supposed to be. So, we learn to hide our struggles and protect ourselves from shame, judgment, criticism, and blame by seeking safety in pretending and perfection.
Based on seven years of ground-breaking research and hundreds of interviews, I Thought It Was Just Me shines a long-overdue light on an important truth: Our imperfections are what connect us to each other and to our humanity. Our vulnerabilities are not weaknesses; they are powerful reminders to keep our hearts and minds open to the reality that we're all in this together.
As Dr. Brown writes, "We need our lives back. It's time to reclaim the gifts of imperfection - the courage to be real, the compassion we need to love ourselves and others, and the connection that gives true purpose and meaning to life. These are the gifts that bring love, laughter, gratitude, empathy and joy into our lives."
©2007 Brené Brown (P)2010 Audible, Inc.
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Critic Reviews

"Brené Brown’s ability to explore shame and resilience with humor, vulnerability and honesty is both uplifting and liberating. If we want to change our lives, our relationships or even the world, we must start by understanding and overcoming the shame that keeps us silent. This important and hopeful book offers a bold new perspective on the power of telling our stories." (Professor Jody Williams, 1997 Nobel Peace Prize Recipient; Campaign Ambassador, International Campaign to Ban Landmines)
"Grounded in exceptional scholarship and filled with inspiring stories, this is one of those rare books that has the potential to turn lives around." (Harriet Lerner, Ph.D., author of The Dance of Anger)
"I Thought It Was Just Me can be a doorway to freedom and self-esteem for many, many readers. (Martha Beck, Ph.D., columnist, O, The Oprah Magazine, and author of Finding Your Own North Star)
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By Leslie A Hill on 08-09-11

I'm sure its great if you are a mother ....

I'm sure this book has a lot to offer to most women; unfortunately not so much for me. Most of the book focuses on motherhood and parenting.. I don't have children, so could not relate a good deal of the time and lost interest.

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By Sherry on 09-01-13

Missing Brene's own Vulnerability Voice

If you are one of the squillions who have watched Brene Brown on TedTalks or Oprah's Super Soul Sunday you may empathize with my review. I missed hearing the book narrated by Brene Brown herself. Lauren Fortgang's effort was not without merit, however after having been engaged by watching Brene then buying the books I missed her delivery of her own words.

The book itself was worth the investment, I've listened twice since purchasing.

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78 of 82 people found this review helpful

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By Alex on 02-09-16

Truly the best self help book I have ever read.

What made the experience of listening to I Thought It Was Just Me (but it isn't) the most enjoyable?

I am fifty two and have survived everything from success to near suicide and homelessness.<br/>I have endured a life of despair so intense that even soldiers and medics avoid me.<br/>No self help book ever helped me and I have read hundreds.<br/>This book is a very rare experience.<br/>The author promises nothing and yet<br/>delivers what I can only describe as life changing insight.<br/>There are no words to describe the reality of the changes which this author could help<br/>some people to inscribe into their actual lives.The retrieval of happiness.<br/>If ever compassion and genius were combined this is it..<br/>I believe that this book is up there with the great achievements of the human heart.<br/><br/>

What was one of the most memorable moments of I Thought It Was Just Me (but it isn't)?

Too many to choose.

Which scene did you most enjoy?

Too many to choose,(genuinely).

If you made a film of this book, what would be the tag line be?

You are not alone.

Any additional comments?

Need I say more.

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By winnie on 08-05-15


Should be on every single person's reading list. In one week I've overcome a massive hurdle and have started moving forward. Utterly brilliant

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By karen on 05-18-16

what I needed and wanted to hear 15 years ago

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By Lesley on 06-24-17

A fantastic resource for women dealing with shame.

This book helps women to realise the different types of shame that we suffer from on a daily basis. And how to start dealing with it.

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