I Always Want to Be Where I'm Not

  • by Wes Crenshaw, PhD
  • Narrated by Wes Crenshaw, PhD
  • 9 hrs and 55 mins
  • Unabridged Audiobook

Publisher's Summary

Dr. Wes Crenshaw offers thirteen principles for successful living with ADD and ADHD drawn from twenty-two years of experience and 23,000 hours of clinical discussions with hundreds of interesting clients. Written in an entertaining, conversational style for readers aged fifteen to thirty, Dr. Wes pulls no punches in confronting the cognitive, social, emotional, and academic pitfalls people with ADD face every day. He also helps families, friends, and romantic partners understand a diagnosis of ADD not as something to fear or an excuse, but as a first step on the path to a better tomorrow.
His principles include accepting here and now, living intentionally, making mindful decisions, recognizing and taking the right path and not just the easy one, wanting rather than wishing, finding and following life's instructions, managing crises, taking responsibility, attaining character through radical honesty, and creating sustainable happiness through organized thinking and living. Finally, Dr. Wes guides you and your loved ones in how to better manage relationships, seek a good diagnosis, utilize therapy, and become your own expert on medication management.

Have you been diagnosed with ADD or ADHD or do you suspect you should be? Do you really want to start solving your many riddles and living a more successful and productive life? This book is for you.
Does your partner, child, roommate, or friend have ADD? Do you wonder what's going on in his or her head, and you really want to understand the secret code so you can better love him or her? This audiobook is for you.
Are you a little scattered or organizationally challenged? Do you struggle with details, follow-through, or in converting ideas into results? Do your people see you as fun and energetic, but uncommitted and difficult to pin down. Maybe you're an "ADD-leaner." This audiobook is for you.


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Where does I Always Want to Be Where I'm Not rank among all the audiobooks you’ve listened to so far?

This is by far the best book on the market for ADD today. Dr. Wes breaks down ADD and ADHD in a way that is easy to understand and easy for a person with ADD/ADHD to relate to, follow and absorb.

What other book might you compare I Always Want to Be Where I'm Not to and why?

I can't compare this book to anything else out there. I've read a lot of self-help books, and I've never read a book like this before or since. I cringe to call it a self-help book, what with all the hokey, new-age baggage that term brings with it, but I'll call a duck a duck for what it's worth. This book, along with a good deal of therapy, has helped me more than I can say.

Which scene was your favorite?

It's so hard to pick just one...but if I had to, I'd have to pick Chapter 5 - "Follow Your Heart?" Not only is the vignette at the beginning one of the funniest in the book, but for me, reading about the perils of following your heart as a person with ADD, changed my life. This chapter was a wake up call, and it came exactly when I needed it. It was not long after finishing that chapter that I finally filled out the FAFSA, enrolled back into school and started getting my life on track for the first time in my almost thirty years on Earth.

Did you have an extreme reaction to this book? Did it make you laugh or cry?

I went through the entire range of emotions relating to the characters in the vignettes. I Always Want To Be Where I'm Not is both hilarious and heart-wrenching, in equal measure.

Any additional comments?

I couldn't recommend this book more highly for anyone who is dealing with ADD/ADHD, either personally or with a close friend or relative (or, as in my case, both)! Dr. Wes provides amazing insight into not only the psychology of ADD, but the impacts on a person's job, friendships, love life, surroundings...he touches on every aspect of how ADD affects a person and their ability to deal with, cope with, and interact with life. From the seemingly insurmountable clutter in your living room to the maddening clutter in your mind, he provides advice and strategies to clean up your life and your mind. This book is insightful, thought-provoking, educational, and incredibly inspiring.

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- inid

I know you have ADHD, but just do it...

All my life I have been told, “you’re lazy, just do it”. Now Wes is telling me, “I know you have ADHD, but just do it”. This book just outlines how we ADHD'ers need to meet our responsibilities, which is something we already know. Knowing what to do is not our problem, actually doing it is. If we could “just do it”, it would already be done. Given ADHD is a deficiency with a neurobiological basis, rather than a moral shortcoming, strategies, preferably based in scientific research, would be much more helpful. Unfortunately, I did not get one useful strategy from this publication. I don’t think any were offered. I actually found it rather condescending, and full of religious overtones and moral judgements. Some of the patient stories were good and they did resonate with me. That is not what I need though. In all honesty there is a lot better information available on the net with useful strategies for helping you actually do the things someone with ADHD may struggle with. Do not waste money on this.
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- Gavin

Book Details

  • Release Date: 11-03-2014
  • Publisher: Family Psychological Press