I Always Want to Be Where I'm Not

  • by Wes Crenshaw, PhD
  • Narrated by Wes Crenshaw, PhD
  • 9 hrs and 55 mins
  • Unabridged Audiobook

Publisher's Summary

Dr. Wes Crenshaw offers thirteen principles for successful living with ADD and ADHD drawn from twenty-two years of experience and 23,000 hours of clinical discussions with hundreds of interesting clients. Written in an entertaining, conversational style for readers aged fifteen to thirty, Dr. Wes pulls no punches in confronting the cognitive, social, emotional, and academic pitfalls people with ADD face every day. He also helps families, friends, and romantic partners understand a diagnosis of ADD not as something to fear or an excuse, but as a first step on the path to a better tomorrow.
His principles include accepting here and now, living intentionally, making mindful decisions, recognizing and taking the right path and not just the easy one, wanting rather than wishing, finding and following life's instructions, managing crises, taking responsibility, attaining character through radical honesty, and creating sustainable happiness through organized thinking and living. Finally, Dr. Wes guides you and your loved ones in how to better manage relationships, seek a good diagnosis, utilize therapy, and become your own expert on medication management.

Have you been diagnosed with ADD or ADHD or do you suspect you should be? Do you really want to start solving your many riddles and living a more successful and productive life? This book is for you.
Does your partner, child, roommate, or friend have ADD? Do you wonder what's going on in his or her head, and you really want to understand the secret code so you can better love him or her? This audiobook is for you.
Are you a little scattered or organizationally challenged? Do you struggle with details, follow-through, or in converting ideas into results? Do your people see you as fun and energetic, but uncommitted and difficult to pin down. Maybe you're an "ADD-leaner." This audiobook is for you.


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Customer Reviews

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great content. impossible reading

As someone who needed more info on ADHD, I found the content of this book to be wide ranging and helpful. My only complaint was the narration of the author. Choppy. No rhythm. Annoying really.
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- Curt Siekert

Great Book Overall, But Could Be More Encouraging

Before I begin my review, I think its important to know a little about me. I have been diagnosed and treated for ADD since I was 6 years old and I am now 28. I was tested three times throughout my life and all three times it was concluded that I have ADD. My father and younger brother are also diagnosed with ADHD. Since, I have been treated pretty much all my life and have made considerable steps to overcome my ADD tendencies, I have achieved great success and life accomplishments. Some of these accomplishments include graduating college, going on to earning a Master's degree with a 3.7 GPA, earned two professional licenses, maintained a well respected career and getting married to a wonderful man. However, none of my accomplishments came easy; it took A LOT work and a very strong support system to get to where I am today. Although, I made tremendous strides in overcoming my ADD tendencies...my work is far from finished. I still need make a conscious effort everyday to overcome my tendencies and I do take medication during the work week to help me accomplish daily mundane tasks.

I decided to read the book "I Always Want to Be Where I'm Not: Successful Living with ADD and ADHD" by Wes Crenshaw as I really want to make a stronger effort in regulating my ADD...Especially since I plan to have children in the next few years. Overall, I found the book to be beneficial. Dr. Wes highlighted from the beginning that the book will address a variety of issues that ADD and ADHD people may or may not struggle with. Hence, I related with some stories and chapters much more than others. Knowing his clientele, Dr. Wes made his book ADD friendly by providing a checklist on what each chapter will cover so that readers can decided whether or not the chapter is for them. I personally read every chapter out of curiosity even if I didn't necessarily relate to the chapter or story. I found the book to be very eye opening to listen to how the rest of the world sees people with ADD/ADHD. The book was difficult to listen to at times as it hit on some touchy issues. However, It was good for me to hear so that I can continue to address these issues. I also did think he gave some great feedback in addressing some of the negative tendencies that comes with ADD/ADHD.

I recently read one review on this book that said that they felt that Dr. Wes was condescending. Although, I did not feel that he was condescending throughout this book, I would have certainty felt that way 10 years ago. Growing up with ADD can take a significant toll on your self-esteem and self-worth. I think if I were to have read this book as a teen, I would not receive this book very well. I would have felt worse about my diagnosis and hopeless. I believe positive encouragement and a strong support system is key for a teen with ADD/ADHD. Since this book wasn't just a informational book about ADD/ADHD and it was geared specifically to people with the diagnosis, I felt that it should have been a little more encouraging to inspire positive change. Although, with that said, it was nice to hear some of positive endings of the stories throughout the book in the epilogue. However, since the book is geared for the ADD/ADHD audience, who has a quick attention span, they may not read to the end so I think it may be better to put the ending of these stories in the chapters which they started.

Overall, I think this was a good book and I would recommend it to people who have loved ones with ADD/ADHD and adults who have ADD/ADHD who are committed to treatment.
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- Deb

Book Details

  • Release Date: 11-03-2014
  • Publisher: Family Psychological Press