• How to Talk to Anyone

  • 92 Little Tricks for Big Success in Relationships
  • By: Leil Lowndes
  • Narrated by: Joyce Bean, Leil Lowndes
  • Length: 8 hrs and 59 mins
  • 4.2 out of 5 stars (12,647 ratings)

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How to Talk to Anyone

By: Leil Lowndes
Narrated by: Joyce Bean,Leil Lowndes
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Publisher's summary

"You'll not only break the ice, you'll melt it away with your new skills." -Larry King

"The lost art of verbal communication may be revitalized by Leil Lowndes." -Harvey McKay, author of How to Swim with the Sharks Without Being Eaten Alive

What is that magic quality that makes some people instantly loved and respected? Everyone wants to be their friend (or, if single, their lover). In business, they rise swiftly to the top of the corporate ladder. What is their “Midas touch?”

What it boils down to is a more skillful way of dealing with people.

The author has spent her career teaching people how to communicate for success. In her book How to Talk to Anyone, Lowndes offers 92 easy and effective sure-fire success techniques - she takes the listener from first meeting all the way up to sophisticated techniques used by the big winners in life. In this information-packed audiobook you’ll find:

  • 9 ways to make a dynamite first impression
  • 14 ways to master small talk, “big talk,” and body language
  • 14 ways to walk and talk like a VIP or celebrity
  • 6 ways to sound like an insider in any crowd
  • 7 ways to establish deep subliminal rapport with anyone
  • 9 ways to feed someone’s ego (and know when NOT to!)
  • 11 ways to make your phone a powerful communications tool
  • 15 ways to work a party like a politician works a room
  • 7 ways to talk with tigers and not get eaten alive

In her trademark entertaining and straight-shooting style, Leil gives the techniques catchy names so you’ll remember them when you really need them, including: “Rubberneck the Room,” “Be a Copyclass,” “Come Hither Hands,” “Bare Their Hot Button,” “The Great Scorecard in the Sky,” and “Play the Tombstone Game,” for big success in your social life, romance, and business.

How to Talk to Anyone, which is an update of her popular book, Talking the Winner's Way (see the 5-star reviews of the latter) is based on solid research about techniques that work!

By the way, don't confuse How to Talk to Anyone with one of Leil's previous books, How to Talk to Anybody About Anything. This one is completely different!

©2003 Leil Lowndes. (P)2015 Brilliance Audio, all rights reserved.

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Good info, but painful to listen to

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I found some good information in this book, but I would have found it SO MUCH BETTER if the 92 tricks were listed instead of having to listen to this entire book. Part of the problem is that 92 tips and tricks are far too many to remember. There are a lot of good pointers, but there are way too many ideas expressed here. More detailed examples and explanations of fewer tips and tricks would probably be more effective... would make them easier to incorporate into actual interpersonal communications.

But far worse is her old-timey way of writing (and presumably speaking). Most of the reviews are correct... the language she uses is so outdated (I've never heard the word 'golly' so many times in my life), the generalizations are pain (and I am anything but PC), and her constant use of alliteration is cringe-worthy (and I almost always appreciate alliteration). I don't believe 90% of her stories about this friend or that acquaintance. They just sound so stilted. And if it wasn't for a few awkward uses of modern-day terms, I'd think this book was written in Dale Carnegie's day (Amazon says the book was released in 2003). She may be an expert in modern-day communication, but she sounds like she belongs in a 1940s newsreel.

I'm only through #57, and I may try to find the list online to get the rest of them without subjecting myself to more uses of terms like 'big winners' and 'fat cats.' Glad I got it on-sale.

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Too self important

This book has a few good tips, but the author is far too pretentious for me. I expected a book with communication tips (of which there are some), but the book is much more about manipulating people to benefit oneself.

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It could do with some editing

Some of this is very helpful and might change the way you interact with people. But it needs cutting down it seems very longwinded and repetitive in parts. It is also a little dated.

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superficial

92 tricks? Is that really practical to remember? A lot of information in this story was repeated or focused on superficial manipulation of others. I love books on audible but this was a real struggle to finish.

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Less about how to talk to anyone and more about playing the game

The book makes some good points, however, it also comes across as very manipulative and insincere. Many of the tactics that are portrayed as bulletproof can easily be seen through. It's more about how to play the "game."

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The purplest of prose

The information in this book is interesting, but the delivery is godawful. The writing is terrible and the author reads the text in lilting, smarmy tones. I'm going to find a print version so I can skim the bad writing and cheesy anecdotes to glean the concepts, some of which are thought provoking.

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so outdated

Has How to Talk to Anyone turned you off from other books in this genre?

I had to look at the date it was written and couldn't believe it was 2015. I thought it was something from the 30's or 40's. Sorry, but a good one to go to sleep with.

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Great despite some bad reviews

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Some say the reading is smarmy and annoying. I can see why they say that about the author who reads only the introduction.

Some say the names for techniques are goofy and patronizing. I say they are good memory aids. They are goofy and inspire visual images, which are easier to remember.

Some say the author sounds too self-congratulatory about her many important friends and her uniquely superior save-the-day wisdom. I was just a bit annoyed by this. But I appreciate personal stories as examples. Stories are easier to remember. It's part of her job as a writer to sell you on the usefulness of the suggestions. Besides, I don't care if she is a bit self-important. That doesn't change my evaluation of the usefulness of the suggestions.

Some say the techniques are manipulative. I don't think so. In fact some of her tips specifically discussed the line between manipulation and sincerity and warns that unless you are completely sincere it will backfire. I think tips are good manners, and good manners are about being aware of how you affect other people. It's about being considerate.

Some say that her examples were dated and out of touch. Well, I may be out of touch myself, but didn't think so. The only dated examples that stood out to me were her suggestion of calling the chamber of commerce and using the world wide web. (hahaha) That hardly invalidates all the interpersonal awareness taught in the book.

I found the suggestions extremely helpful. Some I realized I already do but was really glad for the reminder. Others, I had no idea and I wish someone had told me!

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Painful Writing

I've got to be honest- I couldn't finish the listen. The writing style is painfully cliche, the advice is anecdotal at best, and the whole thing reads like the author is pandering to herself. Save your money- or better yet, read Dale Carnegie's classic instead.

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Tips are gender neutral enough for this guy

This book will be completely relatable to both men and women. It is not by a woman for women.

The narration is clear, pleasant and has a good pace.

I liked the "big cats/ little cats" theme. The author explains not only how each behaves, but explains why one approach is better and how to deploy the big cat strategy.

Each topic concluded with the perfect blend of concept, imagery, examples and action items.

I couldn't help but think, "Oh, that's why!", "Whoops!" or "Now I know how to..." as I listened.

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