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Publisher's Summary

A provocative manifesto that exposes the harms of helicopter parenting and sets forth an alternate philosophy for raising preteens and teens to self-sufficient young adulthood.
In How to Raise an Adult, Julie Lythcott-Haims draws on research; on conversations with admissions officers, educators, and employers; and on her own insights as a mother and as a student dean to highlight the ways in which overparenting harms children, their stressed-out parents, and society at large. While empathizing with the parental hopes and, especially, fears that lead to overhelping, Lythcott-Haims offers practical alternative strategies that underline the importance of allowing children to make their own mistakes and develop the resilience, resourcefulness, and inner determination necessary for success.
Relevant to parents of toddlers as well as of 20-somethings - and of special value to parents of teens - this audiobook is a rallying cry for those who wish to ensure that the next generation can take charge of their own lives with competence and confidence.
©2015 Julie Lythcott-Haims (P)2015 Macmillan Audio
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Critic Reviews

"Julie Lythcott-Haims is a national treasure.... A must-read for every parent who senses that there is a healthier and saner way to raise our children." (Madeline Levine, author of the New York Times best sellers The Price of Privilege and Teach Your Children Well)
"For parents who want to foster hearty self-reliance instead of hollow self-esteem, How to Raise an Adult is the right book at the right time." (Daniel H. Pink, author of the New York Times best sellers Drive and A Whole New Mind)
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5 out of 5 stars
By Justin on 12-16-15

Sometimes it's okay to preach to the choir

I don't necessarily think that everyone who starts reading this book will feel the same. As she mentions, just the fact that we seek out these parental help books, may actually be an indicator that we are worrying too much and over acting or reacting to what we should just recognize as life.

Before I was even half way through this book, I was already recommending it to family and friends. This was probably the first time reading a parenting related book that didn't try and make me feel guilty for not doing more, but rather feel a little silly for thinking that I should. And understandably so. This was a great illustration of the parenting approach we share, and weren't able to put into words.

We, as parents, have been repeatedly asked how we got so lucky. We were even told by someone close to us, I thought you were doing things all wrong, but you seemed to have fixed your mistakes. I went ahead sent them a link to this book too, btw.

This book didn't just give us a pat on the back though. It gave me tangible perspectives and approaches to address the milestones we have not yet reached, resources and advice to provide our child so they can make their own educated decisions and we can focus on our true value as parents and avoid ill fated over involvement.

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4 out of 5 stars
By Savy shopper on 06-02-16

Target Audience- Upper-Middle Class

Most of the book focuses on issues of parenting from the perspective of Upper-Middle Class Americans. Those from working class families will find about half of the book very useful. They will find the other half describing problems of which they will not be able to identify with; or, of which they would love to have.

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