Gaslighting: The Ultimate Narcissistic Mind Control
- Transcend Mediocrity, Book 131
- Narrated by: Melissa Williams
- Length: 31 mins
- Unabridged Audiobook
- Release date: 04-07-16
- Language: English
- Publisher: JB Snow Publishing
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Maybe his parents and his other family members are supportive of him. They don't seem to like you. His charm has won over everyone else. You wonder if you are the one who is the problem. After all, why can't everyone else see that your partner is causing the decline in your mental health? Why don't they empathize with your emotional pain?
You don't feel like yourself anymore. You feel like a shell of your former self. You were so much vibrant and life-loving before you met the narcissist in your life. You love him, but you recognize that he is tearing you down at the same time. You wonder why your relationship isn't supportive, loving and filled with personal growth.
The problem is this: you can't tell which one of you is crazy. At first, you were certain it was him. But lately, you wonder if your own sense of sanity is declining. You feel emotional, exhausted, depressed, frazzled, stressed, and confused. You think that you might even suffer a nervous breakdown any second now. Not even the counselors believe the suffering that you are experiencing. Most people have no idea what you are going through.
If you are feeling this way, my friend, there is a simple explanation. You may be dating or married to a narcissist. Your self-absorbed partner may be gaslighting and manipulating you. He may cycle between love-bombing and distancing himself from you. He seems to be a nice guy to your face sometimes, but then you find out that he is talking bad about you to others. He seems to triangulate you with other women or family members in order to make you jealous and boost his own ego.
Does he talk you in circles when you confront him about his whereabouts when he is running late? Does he tell you that you are being 'too clingy', 'too emotional', and 'too needy' when you say that you want to spend time together? Does he get defensive when you want to move the relationship forward in any way? Does he balk at anything resembling maturity and commitment?
Does he isolate you from friends and family so that he has the opportunity to win everyone over to his side? Does he stop you from having any independence because he is afraid that you will leave him if you had some moral support? Is his self-esteem wavering to the point where he thinks that you might get smart if you talk to others? Does he fear you 'figuring out' what he is up to, especially if other people validate it to you?
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By Practy Cal on 11-29-16
Short but packed with examples and advice
Gets right to the nitty gritty. I thought this would be a fluffy intro to narcissism/gaslighting, but took a chance , and am not sorry! Author gets right to the point(s). I recommend this to anyone who ha a concern about narcissism or gaslighting. It covers a lot of descriptors, and perhaps the person you know does not exactly fit all the criteria, the author illuminates a lot of the drama and problems surrounding relationships with narcissists, and the people who interact with them.
Not all narcissists are intentional in their behavior, and the text is sensitive the the dilemma of narcissism and gaslighting being a form of mental illness, as well as the trauma caused to those who love them.
My husband doesn't exactly fit the description of narcissist, but I learned how to help myself, and to identify triggers he uses that are damaging. Yes ... it's not all in your HEAD! That difficult individual may very well be on the spectrum of total self-absorption and narcissism. If in doubt, purchase this book!
Only criticism is that the narrator speaks too quickly, but you can slow down her voice on playback. Peace to you, and be well
8 of 8 people found this review helpful
By Cindy on 07-14-16
A half hour of pure clarity. Extremely helpful!
This audiobook nailed my situation! It brought clarity and validation to everything I've experienced in the past 3 years. It's short and to-the-point nature will be valuable in helping me explain what happened when talking to the people who care about me. I'll simply have them listen to the book....most people are willing to give a half hour to understand. Do this for yourself!!
7 of 8 people found this review helpful
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By Dee Cowie on 02-23-18
Brilliant Insights to my Father and the detrimental effect his gaslighting has had on my Mother, Sisters and I
Must read to gain easy to understand insights that blow your mind on how your family or someone you know acts the way they do.