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[Contains mature themes] They’re grandparents, with a 40-year love story and a stable, happy marriage. But one of them had quite a few secrets. Esther gives them some tools to navigate and support each other's experiences.
Step into the office of renowned relationship therapist and TED Talk sensation Esther Perel, and listen in as she counsels couples in crisis due to infidelity, sexlessness, loss, and disconnection. The result? Astonishing insights on how they can make love work – and takeaways for you on ways to repair and restore your own relationships.
About Esther:
Esther Perel is recognized as one of today’s most insightful and provocative voices on personal and professional relationships. A celebrated psychotherapist who has helmed a private practice in New York City since 1983, she has over three decades of experience navigating the intricacies of love and desire.
©2017 Audible Originals, LLC (P)2017 Audible Originals, LLC
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5 out of 5 stars
By Nicole on 05-26-17

Brutally Honest

Holy sh*t this one was hard to listen to. I am in awe of this couple. Their relationship has been so badly damaged, and yet they are able to keep sight of the parts of it which are worth holding on to, and to try to fight for those parts and rebuild. I think to myself that I would not have the fortitude to even attempt to work my way through something like this, and yet Esther Perel manages to guide these people toward a level of compassion that is deeper than most people's pride would allow.

As I listen to the session unfold my own instinctual anger, outrage, and sympathetic pain begin to give way to empathy and humanity, and I start to ask questions:
-What does it take to be the kind of person who is willing to even try to forgive a betrayal like this?
-How do you hold onto the conviction that the love in a relationship is real despite actions that seem to invalidate that love?
-If someone does not behave this way out of a desire to destroy, then what kind of trauma can cause them to act like that?
-How do you work up the nerve to start taking responsibility for hurting another human being so terribly?
-How do you lean on your best friend for help when they are the very person who is causing your pain?
-How do you stand up to criticism from your friends and family for attempting to salvage your relationship instead of walking away?

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5 out of 5 stars
By J and M on 06-18-17

Exelent!

Major point here Ester points out, and prime example of how a good therapist MUST suspend all opinion and judgement initially. While many of us would personally think "leave him", and "boy, bye!" That is the worst friends and family can do is judge her for her decision to stay. Too many people have TOO MUCH to say about problems in someone else's marriage. A woman should not be condemned for staying regardless of what you might have done, or even your personal opinion about it. Women have a choice and they made it. You don't have to agree or condone it. But, you have NO right to judge it either. If you really care, you will back off and let them work through it, not make them feel bad or even worse after such a huge betrayal. They've already been brought low, you bringing them lower certainly doesn't add anything positive to an already difficult situation. And, really, that goes for men and women. But, to judge a woman's ability to make decisions, do a job, be a good role model, whatever based on her decision to stay with a partner who has cheated is rediculous! And, judging them says more about the judges than the one betrayed.

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5 out of 5 stars
By Michelle on 08-10-17

Brave souls

Wow, admiration for you both to want to still stay together and work through this. Sounds like you have so much to protect and save. True healing lies within deep work like this. Blessings to you both x

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By Mexico Rosel on 07-22-17

Helpful, healing

I feel the dialogue could have been more compassionately focused on the husband, and offered him more space to freely, without interruption, explore and share his trauma - as it is this very trauma that has perpetuated the trauma his wife has then suffered, and its free and open expression may even help her in understanding her pain as caused by his trauma-based actions. There are many insightful moments in this recording and I am deeply grateful. Thank you for sharing.

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5 out of 5 stars
By Jacqui Daniels-Gillen on 07-10-17

Brave couple

I like the therapist's reassuring tone and appreciation of the subtle complexity of this relationship.

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