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I’ve never been an assertive person, I can sing for hundreds or even thousands of people but don’t care much for the mingling afterward.
I found myself grieving my mothers death and engaged to a man who after 4 years started showing obvious signs of alcoholism and was just cruel. He was the most cruel when I was devastated. It’s like an injured animal in the wild... the beast comes out. His daughter lied so much about me that child protective services was called on me. But once they interviewed her it was obvious that she was told what to say. Her mother is difficult.
My son is 22 and has severe, nonverbal autism. I was drowning and was having panic attacks for the first time in my life. I ended up going to the emergency room because I had lost my ability to speak. It was bad. I couldn’t even figure out where to start to get help. So I bought this book and another called Emotional First Aid by Guy Winch. I practiced the tools taught here, then I implemented them. It became apparent that he would crush me when I was already down so I allowed myself a little extra dramatics and when he pounced... I used what I learned. It stopped him and I was able to start the process of healing and getting out. I’m almost moved out and I don’t let tantrums bother me, I pretend he is practicing for a play or something and I leave him to it.
I have learned about myself also... and am working on getting a therapist as soon as I’m done moving.
So, you could say I like this book. :)
It gave me enough information to begin the next chapter in my life.
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This book had some good information. It described people with certain types of personality disorders and how they can be emotional vampires to those around them. It discussed some strategies that may be used when dealing with the different types of vampires. It also touched on some ideas for suggested treatment. It never provided a great deal of detail for those things. Though, it had some good information, is not a book that will provide good insight into why those people are the way they are or how they got to become that way. I was turned off by the author's occasional underlying liberal agenda and use of this book to bash conservatives as well as those who believe in God. He uses frequent examples of people he describes as emotional vampires, based on their fanatical beliefs or political stances and their denial of evolution or liberal political views. He would have you believe those are based on fact rather than emotion. I have read other books that are far better than this one on the topic, but still I learned some things.
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