Beyond Anger

  • by Thomas J. Harbin
  • Narrated by Erik Synnesvetd
  • 7 hrs and 23 mins
  • Unabridged Audiobook

Publisher's Summary

It's not a new idea that men tend to express their anger differently than women do. Years of research have shown that men - for many different and complex reasons - are often more violent and less willing to confront and deal with their emotions than women. Now Beyond Anger shows the angry-and miserable-man how to change his life and relationships for the better. Dr. Thomas J. Harbin helps men understand their anger by explaining what the specific symptoms of chronic anger are and by showing angry men how their actions negatively affect family, friends and co-workers. He offers simple exercises-developed especially for men-that will help men to control their violent feelings, identify when and why they get angry, and to form new habits to prevent anger before it starts. Women, too, will learn essential strategies for understanding and helping the angry men in their lives. Beyond Anger is:
Honest. Thomas J. Harbin has had to come to terms with his own anger problems, so he understands exactly what angry men are going through.

Tough. The book doesn't let anyone off the hook. It demands that angry men learn to take charge, stop making excuses, and get their anger under control.

Real. The book includes the stories of angry men who have learned to recognize their problems and use the book's techniques successfully. Free of fancy doctor talk and complicated theories, Beyond Anger talks to men in everyday language and provides a wealth of important resources. It is an invaluable guide for the many men struggling to come to terms with their inner battles and to take positive action, and for everyone who has an angry man in their life

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This book has had a more profound and positive impact on my life than anything else I’ve ever read or listened to. Period. I wish I could give it ten stars out of five. If you even suspect you might have an anger management problem, you owe it to yourself to take a listen and at least evaluate your situation.

The first part of this book describes what an anger management problem looks like and how it manifests itself in a person’s life. I always knew I had a bit of a temper. Pretty much everyone in my family did. But when I listened to the first part of this book and realised how closely the author’s descriptions matched my life, I simply felt sick.

I realised I had been ignorant of or effectively downplayed my anger problem all my life. But that’s not surprising. After all, all our boyhood heroes (not to mention family members) all acted that way, so how bad could it be? I also realised that the majority of the dysfunction in my personal and work life appeared to be traceable back to my anger issues.

Fortunately, the next part of the book goes into how to begin to deal with the problem. This involves understanding where the anger comes from. In a nutshell it’s often learned from our families and it’s all based on what amounts to distorted thinking. To get a handle on the problem, one has to begin to see how their thinking is distorted. That’s not as hard as it sounds, but of course it takes real effort to begin to and keep on changing the habits of a lifetime.

The third part of the book deal with specific issues (violence, etc.) that may or may not have relevance to a given reader. The fourth deals with families.

I see now uncontrolled anger is an awful cross to bear. It’s terribly damaging to the angry person, whether they know it or not. As the saying goes, “Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned.” And, the fact is, it’s also very, very damaging to the angry person’s family. Bad stuff.

Again, if you even suspect you may have a problem with anger buying this audio book may be the best investment of your life.
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- Nothing really matters

A Naked Analysis of Male Anger

I used to be an angry man. I would argue with anyone, punch walls, break electronics, scream at my students, grit my teeth and insult my girlfriend. At the end of every day I was sure I was going to lose my job, get dumped and die friendless, penniless and alone.

This book profoundly changed my life.

Mr. Harbin's guide to managing and handling male anger is probably the most useful book I have ever read.

One of the best parts of this book is an early chapter where Harbin outlines exactly what kind of behavior constitutes anger. This was enough for me, as I realized almost the entirely of my conscious thought was devoted to depressing thoughts and instincts.

During the opening chapters Harbin also provides some portraits of angry men, which were really helpful for identifying my own personal traits.

The book includes anger management techniques, a chapter for the partners and spouses of angry men and a solid sociological analysis of why and how men become angry.

Two weeks in and my co-workers and girlfriend have noticed a distinct change in my behavior. Most importantly, I don't leave work angry, bitter and fearful. The net result has been way less stress and more clarity in my life.

This book is great.
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- Alex

Book Details

  • Release Date: 01-29-2009
  • Publisher: Gildan Media, LLC