Beyond Anger

  • by Thomas J. Harbin
  • Narrated by Erik Synnesvetd
  • 7 hrs and 23 mins
  • Unabridged Audiobook

Publisher's Summary

It's not a new idea that men tend to express their anger differently than women do. Years of research have shown that men - for many different and complex reasons - are often more violent and less willing to confront and deal with their emotions than women. Now Beyond Anger shows the angry-and miserable-man how to change his life and relationships for the better. Dr. Thomas J. Harbin helps men understand their anger by explaining what the specific symptoms of chronic anger are and by showing angry men how their actions negatively affect family, friends and co-workers. He offers simple exercises-developed especially for men-that will help men to control their violent feelings, identify when and why they get angry, and to form new habits to prevent anger before it starts. Women, too, will learn essential strategies for understanding and helping the angry men in their lives. Beyond Anger is:
Honest. Thomas J. Harbin has had to come to terms with his own anger problems, so he understands exactly what angry men are going through.

Tough. The book doesn't let anyone off the hook. It demands that angry men learn to take charge, stop making excuses, and get their anger under control.

Real. The book includes the stories of angry men who have learned to recognize their problems and use the book's techniques successfully. Free of fancy doctor talk and complicated theories, Beyond Anger talks to men in everyday language and provides a wealth of important resources. It is an invaluable guide for the many men struggling to come to terms with their inner battles and to take positive action, and for everyone who has an angry man in their life

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Most helpful book ever

This book has had a more profound and positive impact on my life than anything else I’ve ever read or listened to. Period. I wish I could give it ten stars out of five. If you even suspect you might have an anger management problem, you owe it to yourself to take a listen and at least evaluate your situation.

The first part of this book describes what an anger management problem looks like and how it manifests itself in a person’s life. I always knew I had a bit of a temper. Pretty much everyone in my family did. But when I listened to the first part of this book and realised how closely the author’s descriptions matched my life, I simply felt sick.

I realised I had been ignorant of or effectively downplayed my anger problem all my life. But that’s not surprising. After all, all our boyhood heroes (not to mention family members) all acted that way, so how bad could it be? I also realised that the majority of the dysfunction in my personal and work life appeared to be traceable back to my anger issues.

Fortunately, the next part of the book goes into how to begin to deal with the problem. This involves understanding where the anger comes from. In a nutshell it’s often learned from our families and it’s all based on what amounts to distorted thinking. To get a handle on the problem, one has to begin to see how their thinking is distorted. That’s not as hard as it sounds, but of course it takes real effort to begin to and keep on changing the habits of a lifetime.

The third part of the book deal with specific issues (violence, etc.) that may or may not have relevance to a given reader. The fourth deals with families.

I see now uncontrolled anger is an awful cross to bear. It’s terribly damaging to the angry person, whether they know it or not. As the saying goes, “Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned.” And, the fact is, it’s also very, very damaging to the angry person’s family. Bad stuff.

Again, if you even suspect you may have a problem with anger buying this audio book may be the best investment of your life.
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- Nothing really matters "Rob Thomas"

The best anger management book

I've Just started listening to this book and I swear as soon as I heard the forward/preface when Harbin discloses his own experience with anger, his views on his relationship with his wife and the way he felt inside and reacted to life, i immediately identified with him- I felt like he was describing me. Here's the catch, I am a woman, who now knows for sure that I have a problem with anger and now I have some hope that I can get better. I doubt if there is anyone better suited to give advice about dealing with anger than a formerely angry person. I look forward to finishing this book- I hope to put it to good use. This is a really great book with all the case reviews, examples of different anger- it may help someone to find happiness and alternatives to the way we react to anger. I highly recommend this book, if for nothing else, to just finally bring yourself out of denial.
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- Melissa

Book Details

  • Release Date: 01-29-2009
  • Publisher: Gildan Media, LLC