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Publisher's Summary

Many people come to me in despair after they realize that they are in the pits of hell in their relationship with a narcissist. They have been lied to, cheated on, manipulated, and gas-lighted. Their partner isolates them, puts them down, denies them their basic human needs, and abuses them emotionally. Some narcissists even resort to severe physical violence, up to and including murder.
It is no doubt that you are afraid on some level in your relationship with a narcissist. You feel anxious because you were never given the coping mechanisms to deal with the situation that you have been thrust into. You feel confused, consumed, and disoriented. Some people who have been in a relationship with a narcissist long enough have lost their ability to analyze, reason, and make any sort of decisions. They are in survival mode due to the trauma bonding that occurs when a person is in a relationship with someone who causes cognitive dissonance in their brain.
A narcissist's partner is almost always in a state of disorientation by the narcissist's behavior. It is easy to think that the narcissist has multiple personalities (Jekyll and Hyde) or that they have the symptoms of bipolar disorder. The person has such a labile emotional state and inconsistent behavior, so it is easy to see how narcissists can be considered psychotic or delusional at times.
The narcissist's moral state is very flexible. He justifies bad behavior any time he feels that it's required to control the world around him. He resorts to lying and justification any time it suits him. He jumps to conclusions far too quickly, shows a lack of social skills and emotional maturity, and lacks regard for other people's needs or wants. It is no surprise that a relationship with a narcissist will elicit very strong feelings by any normal person.
This book will help uncover the different emotions that are experienced in a relationship with a purpose.
©2015 J.B. Snow (P)2015 J.B. Snow
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2 out of 5 stars
By Tamera Knight on 02-10-16

Limited Insight into Narcissism

There are many forms of narcissistic personality types. This book is too focused on a single narcissistic trait. Not all narcissistic personality disorders cheat on their spouses. I have been married to a narcissistic man for 36 years. I was hoping that the 9 feelings would have gone into more detail and been broader in scope. I do not recommended this audio book.

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5 out of 5 stars
By Salina on 03-29-18

So helpful and validating

I really enjoyed this book. it was concise and a fast read. it cleared up a lot of questions and was very helpful and validating. I thought I was losing my mind or navigating life wrong. turns out I'm doing ok, it's the issue of narcissism that is causing my self doubt.

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By emma on 11-10-16

wow what an eye opener

Still in shock at the accuracy. Feeling a little validated. Long way to go yet. I would like to look in to 'trauma bonding'.

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