9 Covert Ways to Outsmart a Narcissist

  • by Jamie Keller
  • Narrated by Pete Beretta
  • 0 hrs and 29 mins
  • Unabridged Audiobook

Publisher's Summary

If you downloaded this book, it is no doubt that you are dealing with a narcissist on a regular basis. He or she is probably driving you crazy. They gaslight you and try to make you believe that you're crazy. They blame and shame you for everything that goes wrong in their lives. They destroy and damage everything that others have because of their constant envy. They want to always be on top, and they don't care who they step on to get there.
I have dealt with narcissists for years in my family environment and my work environment. I have learned a few tricks in dealing with a narcissist that I would like to share with you. I have experienced their behavior firsthand. I feel that non-narcissists deserve tools to equip them in dealing with a narcissist better so that we don't fall for their malicious mind games.
Narcissists employ a tactic called triangulation which causes jealousy and competitiveness in those around them. They pit two people against each other in order to make both pay more attention to him or to cause them the urge to compete against each other for his attention or for a common goal.
Triangulation can be used as a tool by a narcissist for one of many reasons. He might use triangulation in order to make his partner jealous and fear losing him. Her jealousy will naturally then cause her to hang onto him much tighter and to ignore his bad behavior instead of dumping him for being a jerk. He can cheat and then blame the cheating on the person that he cheated with, pitting his girlfriend and mistress against each other to keep him out of the line of fire.


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What would have made 9 Covert Ways to Outsmart a Narcissist better?

If someone is dealing with emotional pain from a relationship with a narcissist they need help extracting themselves from the relationship and creating psychological distance from that person. The advice in this book would deepen their connection with the narcissist and possibly cause the narcissist to retaliate against them (for narcissists staying in a relationship with someone who they think has done them wrong could be the best form of retaliation).

What was most disappointing about Jamie Keller’s story?

Many narcissists are sociopaths. This advice in this book is likely to anger or humiliate a narcissist and create a really dangerous situation for someone who is in a relationship with them.

You didn’t love this book... but did it have any redeeming qualities?

Some of the information about narcissistic behavior seems accurate but the advice for dealing with it is comically unhealthy.

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- Isabelle

Right on que!

I have somewhat of a unique circumstance. You see i dont deal with this type of person (exactly @ least) on a daily basis. I am a step dad to a 16 yr old narcissist in training! Let me elaborate. My wife & i have been married for 6yrs. We are happily married & get along almost always! The part where the narcissist comes in, is my wifes ex husband! He could quite possibly be the true inventor of narcissism! lol Even though he personally is not in our lives, his 16yr old son is. My step son (Matt) is a very intelligent, creative, intuitive kid, that he impresses me as a dad. But over the last 5yrs or so, i see more & more of his dads qualities truly warping his mind. Of course he is like most teenage boys, he wants to be just like his dad. Dont get me wrong, i am by no means the perfect person. I too have my faults, & i constantly try to better myself through self help books & educating.
Your book seriously hits on every single aspect i have ever seen in Matt. To pick one specific aspect of narcissism that my wife & i deal with, i would say the fact finding. We have learned thats its best too try & ignore it & change the subject as quickly as possible.
Sorry for the long review, maybe i should have went to the authors blog instead. Thank you for the book though, i entirely understood it!

A Step Dad's daily struggles
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- SuperSteve "SuperSteve"

Book Details

  • Release Date: 11-17-2015
  • Publisher: JB Snow Publishing