People never walk into a relationship assuming that they will be abused physically, emotionally, or mentally. The abuse also never starts immediately into the relationship at full force, as you would expect it to. Abusers often start out very subtly in a relationship with the different types of control, blame, and manipulation. They don't tell their partners that they intend to control them or ruin their lives in many ways.
Abuse can take many forms. It can be when your partner tells you that you are fat or ugly just to make themselves feel better. They tell you that no one else would love you or treat you the way that they treat you so that you won't realize you are better than they are and leave them. They make the choice to lose their temper in many forms, but they always blame you instead of blaming their own lack of self-control or their own purposeful choice to make an abusive gesture towards you.
Abuse can be smashing your car right after you joined the fitness gym or right before you plan to return to work. Abuse can be hiding your keys or phone so that you become disoriented and cannot remember where you put them. Abuse can be pretending that they are perfect out in public, only to make other people question whether you are being truthful or not when you share with them that you are being abused.
We will cover the many signs of abuse in this audiobook. Abusers choose to abuse. They feel entitled and feel they have a right to treat you poorly. They justify all of their actions to you and to themselves, removing themselves from any responsibility or blame for the abuse. They don't want to view themselves in a negative way, so they must make you and others believe that you are the perpetrator or instigator of the abuse. Let's dig in to the signs that are present in your life when you are dealing with an abuser.
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