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Finally someone, if not laying out the solution, has written something about the real causes of the unequal access to opportunity in our world. And that it can't all be fixed by throwing money at any one thing. He follows two individuals from polar opposite backgrounds - who eventually join to become a couple - through the course of their lives. One person is from an educated background of privilege, the other is from a multicultural environment of poverty, dislocation and stress. What they both have in common is an intuitive grasp of how to make the decisions which will bring the best outcomes. Each person in tuned in to his/her unconscious (or subconscious?) layer of perception, which has nothing to do with their conscious layers of rational thought - but the two combine to bring success in school, good grades, success in a career, money, accolades. etc. Brooks' thesis is that we have two layers operating in our minds/brains/souls. One is conscious, or rational, the other is unconscious, or emotional. And we are of course mostly unaware of this unconscious layer and how it informs our life choices.
Both these characters lead very successful lives, though as Brooks points out, they are not on the top of any scale of IQ numbers, or list of SAT scores, nor are they "connected" through family in any way. While attractive and pleasing to look at, neither one is "drop dead gorgeous". But their lives are full and rich and successful by any definition of the term. However they listen to their inner guidance, intuitively, mostly unawares, and it is their cues from this subconscious layer which create their best decisions throughout their lives.
I wish he had let us know just how to get this "unconscious" layer to work for us in a positive way all the time!
Great book, great reading, could not put it down. The book is so rich in insight, I am reading it again.
57 of 64 people found this review helpful
Never in my adult life have I listened (or read) a book that so beautifully blended prose and allegory with hard science and self-help. The synthesis is a unified theory of morality, motivation, love, character, politics, and meaning. I am not normally a person who can easily be moved to tears by a book, much less one that is really centered on discussions of Maslow's hierarchy of needs or countless studies of firing amygdala's.
Brooks has long been a favorite NYT Columnist, sharing a coherent and consistent world view without being either doctrinaire or an us-versus-them blowhard like Limbaugh on the right or Krugman on the left. This book follows two fictional characters, Harold and Erica, from birth, childhood, careers, marriage, retirement, and death, revealing how social connection (or lack thereof) drives most humanistic endeavors. This insight would not be so groundbreaking, but revealing the how and the why through the prism of the beautiful Harold and Erica love story is where Brooks excels.
As if all of this were not enough, the humor propels this book from being just "Really Good" to being "One for the Ages". A sampling:
"He’s just back from China and stopping by for a corporate board meeting on his way to a five-hundred-mile bike-a-thon to support the fight against lactose intolerance. He is asexually handsome, with a little less body fat than Michelangelo’s David. As he crosses his legs, you observe that they are immeasurably long and slender. He doesn’t really have thighs. Each leg is just one elegant calf on top of another. His voice is so calm and measured that he makes Barack Obama sound like Sam Kinison. He met his wife at the Clinton Global Initiative, where they happened to be wearing the same Doctors Without Borders support bracelets"
Buy this book! You will be immeasurably enriched.
12 of 14 people found this review helpful
really enjoyed this book. shame the references can't be offered. unsure how it would work.
This whole book is just a list of statistics - and quite a few of them outdated ones. The author tells it like these statistics are facts about human nature when they are in the main just manipulated numbers. There are lots of boring stereotype views about the differences between men and women. I couldn't listen to the whole book so I'm not sure how the love, character and achievement come into it. All I heard was statistics and a contempt for other people.
4 of 9 people found this review helpful
As a female reader I would question a few of the statements made, but overall a very interesting and insightful read into the human condition.
Would you consider the audio edition of The Social Animal to be better than the print version?
What other book might you compare The Social Animal to, and why?
Brain Rules by John Medina. similar practical approach
What does Arthur Morey bring to the story that you wouldn’t experience if you had only read the book?
the perfect voice for the writer
Did you have an emotional reaction to this book? Did it make you laugh or cry?
it made me think and apply situations to myself
Any additional comments?
modern and informative view on us and social psychology. i enjoyed every minute