Missing Out

  • by Adam Phillips
  • Narrated by Simon Shepherd
  • 5 hrs and 4 mins
  • Unabridged Audiobook

Publisher's Summary

We all have two lives - the life we live and the life of our fantasies. But it is the life unlived - the person we have failed to be - that can trouble and even haunt us. In Missing Out acclaimed psychoanalyst Adam Phillips delves into the gap between who we are and who we are not, to discover whether not getting what we want may be the unlikely key to the fully lived life.
Adam Phillips is a psychoanalyst and the author of several previous books, all widely acclaimed, including On Kissing, Tickling and Being Bored, Going Sane and Side Effects. His most recent book is On Kindness, which was co-written with historian Barbara Taylor.


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Customer Reviews

Most Helpful

A bit boring

While the subject was interesting, the writing is stiff. The author needed to use more examples from life or literature to bring his "getting it" and "not getting it" to life. Perhaps it would have been easier to follow in print. I don't know. I got confused. And then bored.
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- Elizabeth

A good introduction to psychoanalysis

If you could sum up Missing Out in three words, what would they be?

Human beings can't avoid failing

What was one of the most memorable moments of Missing Out?

Literature analysis.

Which character – as performed by Simon Shepherd – was your favorite?


Any additional comments?

I recommend this book to everyone interested in psychoanalysis as after education. From literature analysis to clinical practice. Parents can't know every feeling or need of their children. Children want to satisfy their parents, but this is impossible. Mothers are supposed to know everything about their children needs, but this is impossible. The impossible knowledge amid lovers in general is the great issue of this book.

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- Marta D'Agord

Book Details

  • Release Date: 06-26-2014
  • Publisher: Audible Studios