In Real Life

  • by Nev Schulman
  • Narrated by Nev Schulman
  • 6 hrs and 25 mins
  • Unabridged Audiobook

Publisher's Summary

From the host of MTV's #1 show Catfish comes the definitive guide for millenials about how to connect with people authentically in today's increasingly digital world.
Nev Schulman is the host of the wildly popular TV series Catfish which investigates online relationships to determine whether they are based on truth or fiction (spoiler: it's almost always fiction).
Nev has become the Dr. Drew of online relationships for millenials. His clout in this area springs from his own experience with a deceptive online romance, about which he made a critically acclaimed 2010 documentary (also called Catfish). In that film Nev coined the term "catfish" to refer to someone who creates a false online persona to reel someone into a romantic relationship. The meme spread rapidly.
Now Nev takes his investigation to the page, providing readers with an essential roadmap to better connect their digital personas with their true selves. Woven throughout with Nev's personal stories, this book explores relationships in the era of social media. Specifically the book tackles:

what motivates catfish
why people fall for catfish
how one can avoid being deceived
online accountability
Nev's rules for dating
how to connect authentically with people over the internet
how to turn an online relationship into a real life relationship, and much, much more.
Nev delves deeply into the complexities of dating in a digital age, and continues the cultural dialogue his show has begun about how we interact with each other through social media versus in person -- specifically in relation to millennials, who have never known a world without Facebook.
Here Nev explores the pressing issue of connectivity versus genuine connection which is plaguing our relationships with each other, and he provides the advice that his fans have been desperately seeking.
PLEASE NOTE: When you purchase this title, the accompanying reference material will be available in your My Library section along with the audio.


What the Critics Say

"Nev is a great philosopher of the internet and thereby a critical voice for our generation. Whether or not you're a Catfish fan, In Real Life is a must-read and shows us the opportunities and pitfalls that are part of the digital era. Nev makes it plain and simple: the power of the keyboard is now mightier than the sword." (Matthew Segal, founder of
"Finally someone has written a smart and funny guide that helps young people navigate social media without letting it take over their lives." (Maude Apatow, actress and Twitter personality)
"In Real Life is so much more than a book about online dating. It's about self-acceptance and being true to yourself in a world where you're influenced by so many people over the internet." (Jonathan Bennett, host of MTV's Copycat)


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Customer Reviews

Most Helpful

Not what I was thinking

Would you recommend this book to a friend? Why or why not?

I'm going to say no. I don't really have any friends that are trying online dating.

Which scene was your favorite?

I liked the stories from the show.

Any additional comments?

I got this book thinking it wasn't going to be a dating help book. I was thinking maybe moe along the lines of things that happened during the filming of his show or real life things that have happened.

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- Melissa

Entertaining but a bit heavy handed

Sometimes authors shouldn't narrate but Nev Schulman does a great job. I've always found the whole "catfishing" phenomenon strange and sort of fascinating and he has great insight into this subject. The only thing that got tiresome was the long winded "advice" about living IRL. I agree with everything he says but it got heavy handed. Nevertheless it made for an entertaining afternoon listen. Good pick for anyone interested in the sociology of online dating and relationships.
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- Missy "Audiobook & podcast Junkie. I'm that annoying person who you see wearing earbuds 24/7."

Book Details

  • Release Date: 09-04-2014
  • Publisher: Hachette Audio