I Hate You - Don't Leave Me

  • by Jerold J. Kreisman, Hal Straus
  • Narrated by Mel Foster
  • 7 hrs and 57 mins
  • Unabridged Audiobook

Publisher's Summary

People with borderline personality disorder (BPD) experience such violent and frightening mood swings that they often fear for their sanity. They can be euphoric one moment, then despairing and depressed the next. There are an estimated 18 million sufferers of BPD living in America today - each displaying remarkably similar symptoms:

A shaky sense of identity
Sudden outbursts of anger
Oversensitivity to real or imagined rejection
Brief, turbulent love affairs
Intense feelings of emptiness
Eating disorders, drug abuse, and other self-destructive tendencies
An irrational fear of abandonment and an inability to be alone
For years BPD was difficult to describe, diagnose, and treat. But with this classic guide, Dr. Jerold J. Kreisman and health writer Hal Straus offer much-needed professional advice, helping victims and their families understand and cope with this troubling, shockingly widespread affliction.
This completely revised and updated edition includes information on the most up-to-date research that has opened doors to the neurobiological, genetic, and developmental roots of the disorder - as well as the connections between BPD and substance abuse, sexual abuse, post-traumatic stress disorder, ADHD, and eating disorders - making it a vital reference for understanding and living with BPD.


What the Critics Say

“This book belongs on the bookshelf of patients, their friends and family, and for all those who help in their healing.” (Randi Kreger, author of Stop Walking on Eggshells and The Essential Family Guide to Borderline Personality Disorder)


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Customer Reviews

Most Helpful

Not valuable to the person dealing with BPD.

What would have made I Hate You - Don't Leave Me better?

This book is not for the family member or friend learning how to deal with someone with BPD. There were a handful of chapters with case studies of individuals with BPD. There were a handful of chapters about treatment, pharmacological and therapeutic methods. It dives into the trauma associated with BPD which is not really a surprise given the myriad of other disorders one could form from childhood trauma, this is just one of them.
There was not one chapter on learning how to deal with the BPD's tantrums. The only information included was what the spouses were doing wrong when faced with drama; not what you can do right or make things easier on yourself.
This book is probably very enlightening for the person with BPD. But is was a bit decieving in its title and synopsis of how to deal with one.
Don't buy this book if you do not have BPD.

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Is there anything you would change about this book?

It was a good auidiobook and keep in mind this is 1 perspective. This illness needs much further study and a new name that carries less stigma! On the Borderline of... total craziness? This book gives a good basic summary of what a person who has this illness might have struggles with on a daily basis.

What was the most interesting aspect of this story? The least interesting?

The best is that this is a broad view on this illness and covers a good amount of information for someone who has little knowledge of this complicated illness. The author mentions stigma, but then like many doctors and nurses, etc, calls those who suffer, "Borderliners" or "Borderlines." Sorry, but I don't think anyone wants to be called a cancer or canker or other "names and labels."

People who suffer with an illness or suffers from - BPD is appropriate. You are NOT your illness. And like in the old days, they diagnosed women who suffer with mental illness - Hysteria, and now we actually have scientific names for specific illnesses like Post Partum Depression, or Bipolar I and II. I hope that one day the DSM has a better name for Borderline Personality Disorder. Sounds terrifying to say the least. Who would want to admit they have THAT!

This book is a good start, and much more info is being looked into thankfully as time goes by.

Which scene was your favorite?

More specific would be a chapter or topic. I like that the author identifies movies that have suggested a character had this illness. "I am dancing as fast as I can," "Memento," "Who is afraid of Virginia Woolf." I watched "Dancing as fast as I can." I could really relate to the character in that movie. It was odd seeing Joe Pesce out of his usual roles in this movie and I call her, "the mom from Footloose," Diane Weist!

Did I Hate You - Don't Leave Me inspire you to do anything?

I had to look into this book because so many others I talk to who are care providers or patients mention this book and it is highly rated. I think this book is really informational in a general sense. Much more research needs to be done with this illness, but it is a good read for those who don't understand Borderline Personality Disorder and keep in mind this is 1 perspective.

Any additional comments?

More books on this topic! More RESEARCH and more Funding $$$, Less STIGMA and less horror films with preconceived ideas that women, and YES, men who suffer with this illness are out to get you! These are very sensitive people with emotional scarring - not a bunch of criminals or killers. Compassion!

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- therese90

Book Details

  • Release Date: 04-11-2012
  • Publisher: Brilliance Audio