• by Wednesday Martin
  • Narrated by Cris Dukehart
  • 11 hrs and 3 mins
  • Unabridged Audiobook

Publisher's Summary

What makes stepmothering so hard? And why are we, as people and a culture, so hard on stepmothers? How can we make it easier?
Stepmonster is a truly unique and groundbreaking book for women with stepchildren, men with kids who repartner, adult stepchildren, and anyone who cares about them. It is a comprehensive, cross-cultural, research-based reconsideration of stepfamily dynamics - from the perspective of the stepmother. How does she think, act, and feel, and why? Part no-holds-barred memoir of stepmothering in the trenches, part analysis of why stepmothering is tough and steps women with stepkids can take to thrive, Stepmonster has been hailed as "the thinking woman's guide to stepmothering" and "life altering", igniting conversations, controversy, and changes in how we perceive and experience stepmothering.


What the Critics Say

"[Martin's] well-researched work delves into the animal world, fairy tales, psychology, and sociobiology...." (Library Journal)


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Customer Reviews

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A must for stepmothers or those thinking about it.

A book of validation and understanding for the hard feelings you'll have as a stepmother.
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- Sloan

Literally the best stepmom book ever.

If you're like me, you have had it up to here with unhelpful stepfamily advice that amounts to "Just love them like your own. You knew what you were getting into." This book is the antidote to that sort of thing. It's actually helpful. It talks about all the things we stepmoms have often learned the hard way that nobody else wants to hear about.

Have you ever made the mistake of trying to tell your husband honestly what you think of his kids' behavior, thinking he might care that they're driving you nuts in some very fixable ways? I have. I thought I was being really constructive and solution minded. He blew up on me. I was so confused by that until I read this book. Have you ever thought to yourself, "How can I be expected to love these kids who are so completely spoiled and lawless in my home? I don't even like them! I just want them to go home!"? If you have, please read this book. You're not a horrible monster. You're a normal human being who is in an extremely difficult situation. You can do it.

Even if you're one of those rare gems who actually likes your stepkids and thinks this is a really cool gig, you would get something out of this book because it explains so much about why society perceives us the way it does, and really what we're all up against, as well as a ton of historical and anthropological context that nobody else has ever explained so clearly. This book is really for every stepmom, whether you are enjoying yourself, or like me, you're struggling.
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- A.M.

Book Details

  • Release Date: 09-29-2015
  • Publisher: Tantor Audio