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I did not think I particularly liked this book, but I kept listening, and I haven't been able to stop talking about it. I've been prefacing conversations with "Have you heard of Roxane Gay? Well, she says . . ." The book gave me a lot to think about - starting with just how L'Eggs is still a viable brand.
Every year, there's a great debate among a lot of women lawyers about pantyhose. Yes, I'm writing this in 2015. No, I am not kidding. The East Coast contingent declares wearing flesh colored Brillo pads stuck tightly to one's legs an absolute necessity, sorry they're expensive, uncomfortable, and likely to develop ugly and very unprofessional runs. Here on the West Coast, most of us just don't wear them, liberally applying lotion to avoid ugly dryness while simultaneously risking shocking staid Judges. There is common ground: we all shave our legs.
In "Bad Feminist" (2014), Gay argues that the mythical good feminist is humorless, doesn't care about fashion, doesn't like men, won't have children, and certainly doesn't shave her legs. Gay doesn't live up to those standards (and who set them anyway?) and neither do the rest of us. My favorite feminist icon, Ruth Bader Ginsburg, literally changed women's lives, arguing - and winning - important cases for working women before becoming an Associate Justice of the US Supreme Court. Ginsburg had a long, successful marriage; took time off to care for her husband when he had cancer; has two children; has gotten several style icon awards; wears lace jabots with her black robes; and as 'Notorious RBG' ("Notorious RBG: The Life and Times of Ruth Bader Ginsburg" (2015)) has an unparalleled sense of humor.
That raises the question: what is a feminist? Gay doesn't find a "good feminist" anywhere, ignoring herself, the three women of the US Supreme Court, and the quiet feminist, Hilary Rodham Clinton (HRC) - while at the same time, ripping into Sheryl Sandberg, COO of Facebook, and author of "Lean In: Women, Work, and the Will to Lead" (2013). In Gay's judgment, Sandberg can't be a feminist because she's always been privileged, she doesn't struggle with child care providers, and she has housekeepers. Well, the CDC is probably interested in the new mold species growing in my bathroom, but being unable to afford a housekeeper doesn't make me a feminist. And maybe Gay's using argumentum ad absurdem and I took it too seriously?
It's good to step back and think about the philosophy of feminism, and I enjoyed the think. However, "Bad Feminist" really did not work well as an Audible. Gay tends to wander to new topics in her essays, and sometimes it's impossible to tell if she's digressing or if a new essay has started. The title of the review is a quote of Gay's.
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Would you try another book from Roxane Gay and/or Bahni Turpin?
I heard Roxane on Cbc and liked her a lot, I was really looking forward to this book. I expected it to be funnier, feminism with a twist of irony.
It's not. It's a good educational read if you're new to these issues, but to me it's just repeating and rehashing depressingly persistent issues in the same way.
I listened to it in bursts, but deleted it with an hour left unlistened. It's a good book, it's just not for me. I think I maxed out my capacity for this type of book on Inga Musico.
I recommend the podcast Another Round.
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