She Comes First

  • by Ian Kerner
  • Narrated by Ian Kerner
  • 4 hrs and 38 mins
  • Unabridged Audiobook

Publisher's Summary

As women everywhere will attest, when it comes to understanding female sexuality, most guys know more about what's under the hood of a car than under the hood of a clitoris. And while it seems that men have struggled valiantly since the dawn of time to find ways to reliably elicit the female orgasm, rare is the guy who has the modesty to ask: "What do I do?" Ironically, the answer has always been right there on the tip of his tongue.Welcome to the world of She Comes First, where the mystery of female satisfaction is solved and the tongue is proven mightier than the sword. According to Ian Kerner, clinical sexologist and evangelist of the female orgasm, oral sex has long been deemed an optional aspect of foreplay, but, in fact, it's coreplay: simply the best way for leading a woman through the entire process of sexual response.
Fun, informative, and easy to read, She Comes First is a virtual encyclopedia of female pleasure, detailing dozens of tried-and-true techniques for consistently satisfying a woman and step-by-step instructions to ensure success. These simple methods represent a new era in sexual intimacy, one in which the exchange of pleasure occurs on a level playing field and fulfillment is mutual.
She Comes First exuberantly offers a fresh new sexual philosophy that inspires every man to make a mantra of Rhett Butler's infamous line to Scarlett O'Hara, "You should be kissed, and often, and by someone who knows how."


What the Critics Say

"An entire book written strictly for the pleasure of women by a man. Hallelujah!" (Playgirl)


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Customer Reviews

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I got this book the day it came to my local bookstore. It was worth it! After my husband read it, I got a lot out of it :) So, I have it now on Audibles and will listen with hubby which should lead to great conversations and more... This is really great for those stuck in a rut, or looking for new techniques, or just trying something to add a bit (I mean a great deal) of SPICE to a relationship.
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- Judith

Mojomaker vs. Mojobreaker

I bought this a year ago, and I have to say it wrecked my wife's and my rhythm. Not because what he says isn't worthwhile, but because I had internalized the message years ago in highschool and college all on my own. Basically, this is a book about the three tricks to a pleasurable sexual relationship: 1)Cunnilingus. 2)Cunnilingus. 3)Cunnilingus. He goes on and on ad nauseum regarding why a man should do it, about how to do it, and what the best technique is which coincidentally is his own style and technique, and it is always the same. Over and over. The author is a sex therapist, go figure. So, if you are a beginner or you are looking for a better way because what you are doing now is ineffective, this book is for you. Read it, internalize it, and use it in your next encounter. But if you already are in a committed relationship, and 'she comes first' is already your philosophy, and you are great at cunnilingus, don't read this book. It will only mess your mind up as you go down. I started second-guessing, over-analyzing, and losing interest. It's been a year now, and I just realized what the issue has been. My mojo's broke. So now I am trying to forget the contents of this book and approach things in the old way, which my wife, I am sure, will appreciate.
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- Stephen

Book Details

  • Release Date: 02-04-2005
  • Publisher: HarperAudio