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Man, did this book hit home. What do I hate most about myself? I am such a hater, a real critic. I'm 46 and for at least a dozen years, while showering in the morning, I've told myself that I want to stop judging people for at least one day - just one day. The result: sometimes I don't make it out of the shower without already being critical of someone.
This book was an excellent example of my horrid thought process. I read the reviews, and decided to give it a try. As soon as I began, I told myself, "What? Are you kidding? Not one reviewer mentioned that the narrator was the author, with his awful accent?!" For the first few minutes, I was seriously considering not listening. Obviously the author has an accent, but why am I so critical? Am I a bigot? No. In fact, I have had great relationships with individuals from that part of the world. The author actually answered this for me - it's the "judge" in me - this idiot in the back of my head who has me so pissed off, always highly critical of everyone and everything. I am actually a pretty positive guy, and the "sage" in me needs to be more active.
I have listened to this audio book half a dozen times. I can honestly say that it has had more impact on me than any book I have ever read - and I've read perhaps a hundred self-help or motivational books in my life.
It's really funny. I have no idea how I found this book. I wasn't trying to find a book about being positive. But this book has made me want to be a better person - in the month that I've owned it. I can feel the change already; I know my girlfriend can tell the difference. Tonight, she asked where the bread knife was, and suggested, "We must have thrown it away in the garbage that was picked up today. I'm sure it was left in the pizza box that you threw away." My girlfriend is the most wonderful woman on the planet; my attraction to her is her positivity. What I hated about myself was that even someone as strong as her can succumb to negativity. Because of this book, I thought about my response for a second, and answered, "Honey, I'm sure I'll find it. I'll look for it right now!" Sure enough, I found it in a drawer and went over and hugged her afterwards. Before, my response would have been, "What are you talking about? We didn't throw away the knife! Jeeezz..."
This book, and the book the author recommends, Positivity, have really been the one-two punch I needed. I feel I'm doing better in other parts of my life. Obviously, it's me, the guy that wants to improve, that is the catalyst. But, this book really happened to make a great deal of sense to me, and brought to my attention, how ineffective I was in dealing with my internal demons. I don't want my college kids to be as critical as I am; I don't want to negatively influence anyone. This book, along with Barbara Frederickson's Positivity, have shed light on a byproduct of positivity - success in other areas due to a better thought process.
To conclude, positivity is contagious. I have a friend, who doesn't even know that I'm reading/listening to such books, tell me, "Oh... Here comes Mr. Positive..." LOL! I've received more smiles from passers-by the past month than I have in years.
I'm a happy guy again. This is the reason my girlfriend of ten years and I clicked in the first place - we're both positive and happy people. Thank you Mr. Chamine.
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Shirzad did a great job calling out the saboteurs present in all of us. By identifying and understanding them, we can minimize their negative affects on us and on those around us. The concepts behind PQ and all the tips in the book opened up my mind to how to improve myself and increase the amount of time spent in Sage mode. Shirzad's philosophy will give you new perspective on life.
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