• Collaborating with the Enemy

  • How to Work with People You Don't Agree with or Like or Trust
  • By: Adam Kahane
  • Narrated by: Jeff Hoyt
  • Length: 3 hrs and 30 mins
  • Unabridged Audiobook
  • Release date: 04-27-17
  • Language: English
  • Publisher: Berrett-Koehler Publishers
  • 4.5 out of 5 stars 4.3 (21 ratings)
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Publisher's Summary

We're trying to get something done that really matters to us. To do this we need to work with others. But these others include people we don't agree with or like or trust, so working with them seems impossible - like collaborating with the enemy. What can we do?
International consultant Adam Kahane, whose work has been praised by Nobel Peace Prize winners Nelson Mandela and Juan Manuel Santos, has faced this challenge many times in working both on big issues, like economic restructuring, climate change, and civil war, and on ordinary issues within organizations and families. He has come to understand that everything we think we know about collaboration - that it requires a harmonious team that agrees on where it's going and how it's going to get there - is wrong. On the contrary, the only way to get things done with diverse others is to abandon harmony, agreement, and control and to learn to work with discord, experimentation, and genuine cocreation.
Kahane proposes a new approach to collaboration - stretch collaboration - that is built on this insight. He offers examples of how he's helped people apply it in all kinds of tough situations throughout the world. This approach requires stepping forward with openness and commitment, as in the words of poet Antonio Machado, "Walker, there is no path. The path is made by walking."
As our societies have become more polarized and globalized and our organizations have become less hierarchical, more of us need to collaborate across more heterogeneous groups than ever before. This means that increasingly often we face situations where conventional collaboration does not work. Kahane's book offers a proven and practical approach to getting things done in such complex and conflictual contexts. It could not be more timely.
©2017 Adam Kahane (P)2017 Adam Kahane
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1 out of 5 stars
By Paul on 06-21-17

Run for Cover

I listened to Kahane's interview on CBC Radio and was left with the impression that his book would provide practical solutions for dealing with the classic "problem" people at work or in one's social circle. It is, instead, a model for promoting cohesion in large companies, governments, or other such large organizations. Not a bad premise on which to base a book, but what are its applications in the trenches?

If I can paraphrase Kahane's philosophy in a nutshell, we're not going to change people's negative attitudes so let's work around those attitudes. How? Can you give us examples? The book is all talkie, no walkie.

A head of state or the CEO of a large company might want to examine Kahane's proposals while crafting adjustments to corporate management style, but there is little here to enlighten low level department heads or snipers at the water cooler.

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5 out of 5 stars
By mlff on 07-04-18

Simple, yet critical shift in perspective

This book offers a simple, yet a critical shift in perspective. In an increasingly complex world where agendas are unlikely to align, an essential skill is to be able to align actions for mutual benefit instead. In just a few hours this book helped me see that collective progress is more valuable than shared purpose. Highly recommended!

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By Sean on 07-17-17

Great insight and a workable plan

Been looking for a text on helping to collaborate rather than cooperate. this has helped enormously.

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