• by Justin Lee
  • Narrated by Justin Lee
  • 9 hrs and 2 mins
  • Unabridged Audiobook

Publisher's Summary

As a teenager and young man, Justin Lee felt deeply torn. Nicknamed "God Boy" by his peers, he knew that he was called to a life in the evangelical Christian ministry. But Lee harbored a secret: He also knew that he was gay. In this groundbreaking book, Lee recalls the events - his coming out to his parents, his experiences with the "ex-gay" movement, and his in-depth study of the Bible - that led him, eventually, to self-acceptance.
But more than just a memoir, Torn provides insightful, practical guidance for all committed Christians who wonder how to relate to gay friends or family members - or who struggle with their own sexuality. Convinced that "in a culture that sees gays and Christians as enemies, gay Christians are in a unique position to bring peace," Lee demonstrates that people of faith on both sides of the debate can respect, learn from, and love one another.


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An Articulate Book that Misses the Biblical Point

As a conservative Christian, I agree with the author that Jesus is love and our Lord spent most of His time with sinners.... gross sinners. Sinners like wicked, sinful women, which describes me. That is why I love Jesus Christ SO much. He has forgiven me for my abominable sins and has brought me into His Kingdom because of His finished work on the Cross, not because I "did" anything. He gave me the gift of faith in Christ alone. That is what is required to go to Heaven. Faith in Jesus Christ alone.

Let me be clear, my hope is that all people come to know Christ. It doesn't matter what their besetting sin is, adulterers, liars, thieves, homosexuals, and the list goes on, Jesus is able to save sinners fully and completely, no matter what they have done.

That's what I was hoping to hear in this book. That Jesus saves. No matter what your sin is, faith alone in Christ is all that is needed to be justified, sanctified and glorified.

However, within the first 20 minutes of this audio book, Mr. Lee had done just what he says he doesn't like. In his own words, Mr. Lee created two groups. He repeatedly uses the terms: "The Christian Community" and "The Gay Community" which sounds like he is pitting one against the other. That should not be. Christians are Christians. The Body of Christ is made up of every tribe, tongue and nation. People of all backgrounds, nationalities and all of us struggle with thousands of sins.

Sexual sin is not about "us" verses "them"-- The Bible is clear. It's not my opinion, it is Biblical truth that sex outside of marriage between one man and one woman is sin. Mr. Lee's argument should not be with "The Christian Community." His argument should be with the Apostle Paul and our Lord Himself. Jesus clearly defined marriage in the Gospels as one man and one woman. So, Mr. Lee, your problem is what is written in Scripture, not with people who actually believes what Jesus said about marriage.

I was really hoping to see Mr. Lee address the Scriptures head on, but he started with, and continued talking about fringe groups, like the Westboro Baptist church, who are clearly hateful, as if the Bride of Christ behaves like that. We don't! We disagree with fringe groups like the Westboro Baptist Church and that kind of behavior. The "true" Church considers what they do a sin. The true Bride of Christ does not hold up hateful signs at gay people's funerals. We know that is a sin!

Mr. Lee -- over and over again, is doing what most liberals do...pitting one "side" against the other, instead of talking about how to deal with sin using God's Word, the Bible. I threw up my hands in despair after an hour into the book, realizing that he was not going to address homosexuality by going through the Bible.

My hope is that one day, he will realize that everyone sins and those who are truly Born Again will spend eternity together around the Throne of God above, in perfect peace and harmony, worshipping the Lamb of God who takes away the sins of the world. I pray he finds peace and rests in Christ alone.

There will always be hateful people on this earth. Read Romans chapter three. Paul writes "there is none who does good. No, not one". That is why we need a Savior and we have the perfect God-Man already ruling and reigning in Heaven.

It is my prayer that whoever may read this review, will not take it as a hateful or judgmental review, but as one that really has a heart to see sinners saved by the blood of Jesus Christ alone. There is no Gospel in this book. That is very sad I pray for Justin Lee with all of my heart.

Let's make it all about Jesus and not ourselves. He did the work. He should be worshipped and glorified. God bless you all.
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- Lauren H. "I love reading/listening to books! Favs are by Reformed authors. I'm always looking for good biographies, and accurate Church history."

i loved this book.

i loved it.. this book really helps not only straight but gays that are struggling with their attractions and as the author it can go both ways but i choose to be as christ like and loving as possible and not blame either party.
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- Tiffany Jauregui

Book Details

  • Release Date: 05-14-2013
  • Publisher: Hachette Audio