It's Not Okay

  • by Andi Dorfman
  • Narrated by Andi Dorfman
  • 9 hrs and 18 mins
  • Unabridged Audiobook

Publisher's Summary

Andi Dorfman, the beloved finalist of season 18 of The Bachelor who infamously rejected Juan Pablo and went on to star on season 10 of The Bachelorette, dishes about what it's like to live out a love story - and its collapse - in front of the cameras, offering hard-won advice for moving on after a break-up, public or not.
Andi Dorfman, star of The Bachelor and The Bachelorette, talks candidly about what it's like to be courted by 25 handsome single men in this juicy insider's peek at dating - and breaking up - on national TV. She shares entertaining and heartfelt stories about her fellow Bachelor alums - many of who are still close friends - comes clean about calling out bachelor number 18, Juan Pablo, for bad behavior, and reflects on her personal challenges and uplifting experiences in love that she hopes will help you get through your own break-ups with grace and style!


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"The feminist in me"...

Would you recommend this book to a friend? Why or why not?

Look-- if you're a girl, able to afford expensive brand name clothes and accessories, enjoy self-deprecation with your girlfriends, and think that feminism means having a dirty mouth and disagreeing with a man.....then you might love this book! Or basically, if you enjoy everything about Legally Blonde because I feel like she and Elle Woods are interchangeable characters after listening to this.

However, if you're looking for the inside scoop on The Bachelor/ette or seeking any true insight of dealing with heartbreak, then I'd say this book's not for you. Drowning yourself in wine, defining your happiness by the size of your jeans, and criticizing men to feel better about yourself just isn't the way to go. I know she speaks to more things than that but you really have to have a similar personality to hers to enjoy it.

What was most disappointing about Andi Dorfman’s story?

Just how shallow it was. Andi herself said several times that "Am I shallow? Maybe." But really, the answer is absolutely. I feel slightly bad criticizing her especially because she put herself out there to be vulnerable and publicly exposed. However, it's just not a great a book.

I should have known better... but I wanted to give the Bachelorette Turned Writer category a chance since I actually enjoy the show quite a bit.

What do you think the narrator could have done better?

She did a fine job narrating... but I realized, as much as I enjoyed her on the show, she's just not someone I'd be drawn to in any other setting.

Was It's Not Okay worth the listening time?

Again, it depends-- are you generally shallow or not? For me no. For others with similar tastes, style, agendas as an Elle Wood type gal, it might be awesome for you.

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- Nicole


As a long time 'Bachelor' fan I bought this audio book well in advance of the release date. To be clear, I am a childless, spouse-less female who is 10 years older than Andi, but I am also very educated and feel that I have accomplished a thing or two in my life. Sadly, Andi does not seem to know what she doesn't know, and instead of feeling empowered as a doctoral degree prepared single woman who has been jilted in my lifetime by an undeserving-of-me man, as a result of listening to Andi go on and on about the imperative need for a man, I now have a complex about not having found a perfect relationship to complete me. I also have grave concerns about Andi's alcohol consumption, which was one of the other ongoing themes of the text. I finished this scary missive very begrudgingly, only because I kept hoping for a dramatic finish that never came. skip this and read/ listen to Courtney Robertson's book about her 'Bachelor' experience if you want a juicy read that won't make you want to off yourself.
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- Leahmgordon "Feminist, rescue dog owner, Certified Registered Nurse Anesthetist, Doctorate in Nursing, Agnostic, & autism advocate"

Book Details

  • Release Date: 05-17-2016
  • Publisher: Random House Audio