A hilariously candid account of one woman's quest to bring her post-baby marriage back from the brink, with life-changing, real-world advice.
How Not to Hate Your Husband After Kids tackles the last taboo subject of parenthood: the startling, white-hot fury that new (and not-so-new) mothers often have for their mates. After Jancee Dunn had her baby, she found that she was doing virtually all the household chores, even though she and her husband worked equal hours. She asked herself: How did I become the "expert" at changing a diaper?
Many expectant parents spend weeks researching the best crib or safest car seat, but spend little if any time thinking about the titanic impact the baby will have on their marriage - and the way their marriage will affect their child.
Enter Jancee, her well-meaning but blithely unhelpful husband, their daughter, and her boisterous extended family, who show us the ways in which outmoded family patterns and traditions thwart the overworked, overloaded parents of today.
On the brink of marital Armageddon, Dunn plunges into the latest relationship research, solicits the counsel of the country's most renowned couples' and sex therapists, canvasses fellow parents, and even consults an FBI hostage negotiator on how to effectively contain an "explosive situation". Instead of having the same fights over and over, Dunn and her husband must figure out a way to resolve their larger issues and fix their family while there is still time. As they discover, adding a demanding new person to your relationship means you have to reevaluate - and rebuild - your marriage. In an exhilarating twist, they work together to save the day, happily returning to the kind of peaceful life they previously thought was the sole province of couples without children.
Part memoir, part self-help book with actionable and achievable advice, How Not to Hate Your Husband After Kids is an eye-opening look at how the man who got you into this position in this first place is the ally you didn't know you had.
"Jancee Dunn blends marital advice from real experts with her down to earth folksy wit in Hot Not to Hate Husband After Kids. If your husband has a better relationship with his phone than he does with his baby, you need to hit him with this book - and then ask him to read it." (Jen Mann, New York Times best-selling author of People I Want to Punch in the Throat)
"Part memoir, part self-help book, Jancee Dunn's How Not to Hate Your Husband After Kids offers relationship research combined with personal anecdotes. Strategies learned from therapists, friends, and even an FBI hostage negotiator help Dunn heal her marriage - and set a good example for her kid." (Real Simple)
"This book is a very valuable addition to the whole huge transition to becoming parents. This book can help preserve the greatest gift you will ever give your baby: a loving relationship between the baby's parents." (John Gottman, author of The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work)
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Excellent Book! Title should be changed though...
This is a great book, very fun to listen to, I laughed out loud!
Her therapy session with the scary therapist and getting pointers from the FBI negotiators
She is funny, light hearted, and tells the truth
YES! It should REalLy be "how not to hate your SPOUSE after kids" - I want my husband to listen to it but it is hard to with the title. However, this book teaches amazing things about conflict resolution in general, as well as how to NOT damage your kids when fighting with your spouse. I seriously think you should consider putting it out with a new title, it is a must read for every married couple... Marriage is hard, and a lot of what is covered in this book is not talked about often enough... it is nice to know we are all in the same boat! I highly recommend this book...
- Jen Brown
You don't need a husband or kids to appreciate!
- M Wyatt