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At the center of this nonfiction book is a cross-country trip where writer Buzz Bissinger (Friday Night Lights) drives from coast to coast with his handicapped adult son, Zach. Zach has a photographic memory and an obsession with maps. The author is brutally candid about his experience as the father of twins, one being mentally handicapped. Bissinger is not afraid to show his less-than-perfect side as he tries to deal with this unexpected fatherhood experience and a challenging trip. His honesty is what gives the memoir its power. Bissinger expertly weaves in stories from throughout their lives, and the book flows well. This book is funny and sad, and always real. Bissinger did a great job narrating. I enjoyed it a lot.
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Well, heated, maybe...
This is definitely very well written, and it's certainly honest and candid. Bissinger is unflinching in his honesty to the point where it struck me that he was being self-serving, rather "Woe is me, look at what a low life I am," kind of guy he is.
The whole premise of the book, a spur of the moment jaunt across the country is like everything in the book, a blip of an idea that comes to Bissinger that he crams down everyone's throat, then he has buyer's remorse, then he tries to backtrack, then he tries to talk his way out of it, then he blows up on everyone, then he goes through with it.
This is the way of the whole book. The way of Buzz's life.
And I don't know how anyone can stand living with him.
Zach is extraordinary, yes, because how he can manage not turning into a lump of jelly as Bissinger flies off the handle time and time again, spewing profanity about how stupid and messed up things get on the trip, and how this that and the other that happened is a major f-up, just shows he has a strength of character and of courage that is beyond your average individual.
The trip is almost entirely self-serving for Bissinger, seeded with his expectations and peppered with promises made to Zach that he doesn't even try to keep. He has excuses for why he doesn't try, he's very candid and honest that it's just because he's pissy, in a bad mood, etc. Then there are the burning memories he has along the way that cause rage that turn into flat out explosions where, again, he's very candid and honest. In those cases, he wants a scapegoat: Zach is it as Buzz flies off the handle, and it's painful to hear. As Bissinger is the narrator, as he prides himself on his "candid honesty," he puts every sneer, every bite, into the depiction of his searing, out-of-control rage.
He apologizes later to a very, very quiet Zach.
So that makes it all better.
And every now and then, he notices the beauty of Zach and his personality, doesn't strangle Zach for his quirks.
So that makes it all better.
All in all, this was a decent book, but I felt as though I'd been chewed up and spit out in little acid-covered pieces. I'd just finished listening to "Life, Animated," and appreciated this more "real" version of how hard things can get when your dealt more "X"s than check marks, when maybe your temperament is less pie in the sky and more real and such... But this?
Zach is a beautiful person. And Bissinger's son Gerry is jaw-droppingly wise and loving.
Bissinger needs to listen to his own "wise" words that he tosses around at the end there and actually apply them. Because there are some wonderful people in his life that he's not appreciating. This book shows true what he says his wife has told him pointedly: He sucks the fun out of everything.
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