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Publisher's Summary

In 2005, Vanessa Woods accepted a marriage proposal from a man she barely knew and agreed to join him on a research trip to the Democratic Republic of Congo, a country reeling from a brutal decade-long war that had claimed the lives of millions. Settling in at a bonobo sanctuary in Congo's capital, Vanessa and her fiancee entered the world of a rare ape with whom we share 98.7 percent of our DNA. She soon discovered that many of the inhabitants of the sanctuary---ape and human alike---are refugees from unspeakable violence, yet bonobos live in a peaceful society in which females are in charge, war is nonexistent, and sex is as common and friendly as a handshake.
A fascinating memoir of hope and adventure, Bonobo Handshake traces Woods' self-discovery as she finds herself falling deeply in love with her husband, the apes, and her new surroundings while probing life's greatest question: What ultimately makes us human?
Courageous and extraordinary, this true story of revelation and transformation in a fragile corner of Africa is about looking past the differences between animals and ourselves, and finding in them the same extraordinary courage and will to survive. For Vanessa, it is about finding her own path as a writer and scientist, falling in love, and finding a home.
©2010 Vanessa Woods (P)2010 Tantor
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Critic Reviews

“A beautifully written journey into the tangled jungle of the human mind, it also brings us movingly into...loving contact with our extraordinary cousins. This is a compelling story, told with striking honesty, humor, and intelligence.” (Alan Alda)
"Funny, adventurous, and heartbreaking, Woods takes us with her to darkest Africa to meet our nearest relative, the nearly extinct bonobo. This must-read book illuminates extraordinary courage in both people and animals." (Sara Gruen, best-selling author of Water for Elephants)
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By Elizabeth on 06-21-10

Interesting & Informative

I loved this book, including the quirky narrator, whose Aussie accent and intimacy are a perfect match for Vanessa Wood's story of falling in love with the bonobos of central Africa's Congo. Although I knew a bit about bonobos' matriarchal social structure and "make-love-not-war" approach to communal living, "Bonobo Handshake" not only deepened my knowledge, but made me care deeply about these remarkable members of the great ape family. Equally interesting are the author's descriptions of the Congo, which is the only place in the world where the endangered Bonobos live in the wild. It's rare to find a book that's both a good yarn and educational, and this one excels at all levels.

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By Kathleen on 03-24-12

Here's a hint: it's not a "hand"shake!

Would you recommend this audiobook to a friend? If so, why?

This book will appeal to all who love real life adventure stories set in faraway, exotic places, particularly if the protagonist travels to do good works. The author is in Africa to study the little known Bonobo, almost identical looking to their primate cousins the Chimpanzee, but oh so different in several notable ways. Where Chimps are competitive and can be violent, Bonobos work together in peaceful groupings and use sexual contact for almost every type of emotion and communication, including with their human caregivers. You will fall in love with these quirky, delicate and loving creatures.

What did you like best about this story?

I love animal stories and was fascinated to learn about the Bonobo. I loved the author's sense of humor and compassion.

Which scene was your favorite?

There is an episode where a female Bonobo develops a strong crush on the author's husband, also a researcher, and is hilariously demonstrative in her advances. Woods humorously recounts how astonished she is to realize she's insanely jealous of this competing female's attention to her beloved!

Was there a moment in the book that particularly moved you?

The scientific experiments that showed Bonobos innately cooperate with one another without being taught were fascinating. I laughed out loud at several of the passages depicting the sexual activity by the Bonobos: they have sex constantly with random members of their social group from an extremely young age, as casually as humans shake hands. And they not-so-subtly request that humans touch them in certain places as this is their customary way of greeting one another. Obviously this can create some awkward moments which the author, and talented reader Eyre, treat with humor and grace.

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