The macho society that held John Wayne as a role model has created an emotional wasteland where 80 percent of men are unable to accurately express their feelings, and that same percentage feel estranged from their fathers. The stifled male, disconnected and out of touch, fills the void with apathy or anger, and the toll is staggering: short, unhealthy lives, ruined relationships, and damaged children. This destructive behavior repeats itself in the next generation as the sins of the father continue the cycle.
In Becoming the Kind Father, Calvin Sandborn aims to break that cycle. His intensely personal story is heart-searing and inspirational. Brought up to fear his father's alcohol-fueled fury and hateful put-downs, the author buried his feelings and fine-tuned his own rage. His father's early death and the collapse of the author's marriage provided catalysts for change.
Interspersing clever literary references with painful childhood memories, intense self-examination, and astute observations, Sandborn provides well-researched psychological findings and self-help tips, including how to:
Identify and share feelings
Treat yourself as a kind father would
Form trusting male friendships.
Break the anger habit.
Forgive the world and yourself.
This guide offers helpful insight for the millions of men who want to become kinder human beings. A must-read for every woman who loves an angry or emotionally distant man.
"...an inspiring book enhanced by a performance that captures every high and low of a childhood from which lesser people might have learned the wrong lessons." (AudioFile Magazine, March 2015)
"From the first page, I was enchanted by this book... Amid so many voices calling on men to be tough, to be manly, Calvin Sandborn calls on them to be kind, to be human. I pray that it is his voice that will prevail." (Rabbi Harold Kushner, author of When Bad Things Happen to Good People)
"Professor Sandborn's well-referenced book is crammed with valuable self-help tips that when practiced will help debunk society’s macho myth and give birth to the real man who is loving, sensitive, gentle, and kind." (John Bradshaw, author of Homecoming)
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