34 Ways to Talk to a Narcissist: The Narcissistic Borderline Relationship Dynamic

By: J.B. Snow

Narrated by: D Gaunt

Length: 31 mins

Publisher's summary

Many of us try to learn how to communicate throughout our lives with other individuals. We think that once we learn communication skills, we are set to talk to anyone. This belief is one that is quickly thrown by the wayside once we meet a narcissist whom we want or need to communicate with. His thought patterns and speech may be much different from anything we've ever encountered before. Before we know it, we have upset the narcissist and have gotten on his bad side, which is a very bad place to be.

In book one we detailed the different emotional places that the borderline and her narcissistic lover might come from during their development and in response to their relationships with their caregivers. As children, when we experience the overprotective helicopter parent who idealizes us far too much, the parent who can never accept the child's individuality and asks perfection of him, or the cold and emotionally invalidating parent(s) that tell us "boys don't cry", it disrupts our emotional development during the first 18 years, causing things like narcissism, borderline personality disorder, OCPD, avoidant personality disorder, antisocial personality or conduct disorders, or schizoid personality disorder.

First, I want to give a little back information on the borderline-narcissist relationship duo for those who are new to my series and refresh those who have tuned in to my other related books. The relationship duo between borderlines and narcissists tends to be more common than we think. There is no true way to get a good picture of how many relationships span this dynamic, as many borderlines and narcissists go undiagnosed or undetected. Most narcissists don't have the intuition, knowledge of their condition, or interest in their inner world to pursue why they are the way they are. It is unlikely that they would seek treatment because of their overinflated egos...

©2015 J.B. Snow (P)2015 J.B. Snow

For real???

This is to encourage me to break up with them, right???? Thank you for this book! I left almost a year ago, I knew I was supposed to go... but never felt settled. This book answers the “why” that my intuition was warning me about & the “why” to my yearning to return! Thank you. Now I can be at deep inner peace, and send loving vibes ***FROM A DISTANCE*** instead of being in limbo trying to understand why I was afraid, turned off, and why I wanted to be with them even though I was treated poorly. I’m healthier now, and what I feel towards them is a caring natural love, a love is known to me and that they can’t understand. Thank you for the stone cold in my face truth about what it would have been like to stay. What you describe was how it was to be with them. Whew! I’m glad I left and I wish that person the best xoxo

nice listen

went by too quick. was a good listen though and the truth shows! 😉 I would recommend.

informational

if dealing with a narcissistic loved one. and communicating with then is seriously difficult. some of this tactics were seem in my personal experience as helpful. good listen for self help.

Clear and concise

Very helpful book on common traits of the narcissistic personality and suggestions on how to respond to them in specific situations. This book is in list form and I found it to be very clear and to the point.

A lot of good tools and information.

Very informative and eye open. Great revelation! This book brought great understanding and helped me to see the origin of some behaviors. It was very interesting to say the least.

I found hope and a validation of my strategies.

The book is a light in the path of a woman who has loved the same narcissist for 30 years. We were divorced for many years, but we rebonded over his sick Mother who is also my absolutely best friend. She passed last February and I am now trying to hold fast to myself. I won't live with him although he craves the security. Now he offers marriage. I refuse to get in deep again. Your book gave me the best information for me at this time. He's 66 a semi retired music production manager and set up tear down. He calls himself Road Dawg. I needed the words of encouragement and understanding. God Bless you

very practical advice

The narrator sounds slightly robotic, but the material is so relevant and spot on. I'd recommend this book to anyone who finds themselves dating a narcissist.

Very helpful.

I like the relationship part as it pertains to me. Tools I will use!!! Thanks!!!

The Rabbit Hole

Oh my goodness,this book is the best and the reader did a amazing work. It was as if she was talking about my husband, such a eye opener for me and how to deal with a narcissist husband.

wow

opened my eyes to what I thought was love and have come to know that I have been living with a narcissist for 37years